Every now and then we hear someone or the other getting divorced. And the amazing part is we at once judges one of the individual in the circus of life called “Divorce”. No, really that’s the bitter truth and I am no less.
Recently, there is one incident that shook me mentally. 4 months back I was living in a p.g with 2 girls one of whom was divorced at the early age of her life. And as soon as I shifted there she opened up about the painful chapter of her life. Now the interesting part is she was exactly like me, same mood swings, same attitude, same temparents overall same individuals and as you all know that opposites attract so we couldn’t gel for long and eventually had a major fallout due to which I left that p.g but one thing that I didn’t mentioned here was that during our verbal spat I told her in anger “Because of this attitude of yours, you got divorced”, which is a very wrong thing to say though I immidiately apologised to her but she never forgave me though I tried a lot in my way to say sorry but she just didn’t wanted to see my face. And I believe she was right in her own space.
Though there is one thing that I never told her because that might create rift among 2 best friends. Her own friend who was the 3rd girl among us 3 days before that spat mentioned this to me in general conversation and due to which I used this line in our fight as it was in my mind. Though many times I felt like telling her friend who was really nice to me that no matter how worse she is you cannot be talking about her in a negative sense to anyone specially a third person who is an outsider in your life like me but I never said because no one likes to lisiten negative about themselves, this I have learnt from my past experiences so I refrain giving any kind of gyan to anyone.
However, point over here is not who is wrong and who is right and who said what, point is who gave us the right to judge an individual who has suffered that dark chapter in his or her life. We were not there when they were having their ups and downs. We were not living their journeys. We do not know what went wrong.
Always remember whenever Divorce happens it is the responsibility of both the individuals involved. We cannot and should not blame any one person. It might be a possibility that the person might have tried a lot to save her or his marriage but eventually things couldn’t work for them. So in this case if a person ever tells you about his or her divorce story just give them a tight hug and say “You are stronger than this, this shall too pass”. Never judge them and please never ever think that it is their fault that they got divorced. May be god has better plans for them. I wish each one of them who ever has to go through this pain be strong and have a wonderful life ahead and lastly “To that special someone who once started with me as a strong friendship a big “SORRY” and I mean it.”
Lots of love to all
Tripts
Tripts 