positivity – Tripts

Divorce… A stigma

Every now and then we hear someone or the other getting divorced. And the amazing part is we at once judges one of the individual in the circus of life called “Divorce”. No, really that’s the bitter truth and I am no less.

Recently, there is one incident that shook me mentally. 4 months back I was living in a p.g with 2 girls one of whom was divorced at the early age of her life. And as soon as I shifted there she opened up about the painful chapter of her life. Now the interesting part is she was exactly like me, same mood swings, same attitude, same temparents overall same individuals and as you all know that opposites attract so we couldn’t gel for long and eventually had a major fallout due to which I left that p.g but one thing that I didn’t mentioned here was that during our verbal spat I told her in anger “Because of this attitude of yours, you got divorced”, which is a very wrong thing to say though I immidiately apologised to her but she never forgave me though I tried a lot in my way to say sorry but she just didn’t wanted to see my face. And I believe she was right in her own space.

Though there is one thing that I never told her because that might create rift among 2 best friends. Her own friend who was the 3rd girl among us 3 days before that spat mentioned this to me in general conversation and due to which I used this line in our fight as it was in my mind. Though many times I felt like telling her friend who was really nice to me that no matter how worse she is you cannot be talking about her in a negative sense to anyone specially a third person who is an outsider in your life like me but I never said because no one likes to lisiten negative about themselves, this I have learnt from my past experiences so I refrain giving any kind of gyan to anyone.

However, point over here is not who is wrong and who is right and who said what, point is who gave us the right to judge an individual who has suffered that dark chapter in his or her life. We were not there when they were having their ups and downs. We were not living their journeys. We do not know what went wrong.

Always remember whenever Divorce happens it is the responsibility of both the individuals involved. We cannot and should not blame any one person. It might be a possibility that the person might have tried a lot to save her or his marriage but eventually things couldn’t work for them. So in this case if a person ever tells you about his or her divorce story just give them a tight hug and say “You are stronger than this, this shall too pass”. Never judge them and please never ever think that it is their fault that they got divorced. May be god has better plans for them. I wish each one of them who ever has to go through this pain be strong and have a wonderful life ahead and lastly “To that special someone who once started with me as a strong friendship a big “SORRY” and I mean it.”

Lots of love to all

Tripts

Negativity it is ???

You all are aware of this “term”, no one wants to come across as a negative person. Even if the person is, he will always claim to be a positive person. Because being negative as per them is clingeworthy. But do you know infact I think everyone knows that 2 negatives make 1 positive. I know I know how cliche 😂

I am in general a negative person and I have no shame in accepting it. Infact there is a very interesting story to it, way back in 2007 I won a small beauty contest in my then Delhi office where I was asked a question what would you want people to think about you and I very calmly said “I would want people to think that I am highly positive person which I am NOT, and amazingly I won with this answer.

I would like to say that there is nothing wrong in being negative because they are the ones who will tell you the most amount of truth, Tell me those who claim to be positive people are they really positive. Talking about people behind their back is negativity, taking dig at other one’s appearance and personality is negativity and above all putting some one down by showing oneself superior is also negativity. Then where is positivity. Whereas I think talking truth and accepting situations and things around you is positivity. If a person himself says that I am a negative person is in itself being honest which in other words is being positive.

What I meant to say in this blog is if you really are a positive person think about other’s in positive way. Be true to yourself and if someone is wrong instead of putting the person down think about the situation he is in and shower love on that person than in real sense will make you a positive person.

I am proud of being a Negative person.

No shame at all. Mock me as much as you can!

Love and Light to all

Irrfan Khan – A Gem

What does it mean, Irfan means “Knowledge” “Awareness” and “Learning”. And it is so amazing that this legend perfectly suited his name and glorified its meaning.

I have never been an artist crazy person but this is one such person who has left a deep impact on me not only as an artist but also as a human being. One should learn from him how to be a human being first, rest all other things will fall in place. There are so many things about him that if I start writing about them I would have to write a biography.

I still cannot think him as a dead being, it still feel that he is around. It is fortunate that atleast he acted in movies so atleast we can have a glimpse of him whenever we want. Seeing him never felt like he is an actor, it always felt like some genuine soul is creating a magic. He was a good soul overall. Recently I saw his interview that was taken in 2016 where he was seen arguing with Muftis and Maulanas. His thoughts were bang on. It was how I use to think and always fought with people that not all Muslims are bad. I even got inspired to read Quran and I did.

I really feel sad that such an amazing soul is not between us. Infact I remember during the lockdown when I was in Mumbai last year, I woke up with the news that Irrfan Khan admitted to hospital, and I immediately murmured to myself irritably “Please don’t die I am already in stress, what rubbish is this now”, as that time I was low due to lockdown as I was unable to go to my hometown. And next day the news was everywhere he is no more. My eyes were teary. It happened with no other star who died, infact not even with Sridevi being my favourite. That was also because I never saw him as an actor, for me in my mind it was always like he is a nice human being, though I have never met him and this is one regret with which I will have to live my entire life that I won’t be able to see this amazing soul ever in my life.

I remember whenever there was any movie which starred Irrfan Khan I use to watch it without any second thought. I watched Piku and Lunchbox don’t know how many times. All I can say is will miss you Irrfan Sir. I love you from the bottom of my heart and wish that you always smile as a rising star looking down upon us.

Love and only Love

Tripts.

My Brother Nikhil

Recently I watched this 2005 flick, and was wondering were people really that ignorant those times. Thankfully, people are more aware now atleast that is what I think. It dealt with 2 “Taboos”, majorly “Aids” and some part of homosexuality.

Firstly let’s talk about homosexuality, why we have to give it a name. Can’t it be taken as normal sex like what happens between a boy and a girl, it can happen between a boy and a boy or a girl and a girl. Or more than sex Love. Why to stereotype and make it look unusual and something that is beyond nature. Why can’t it be taken as a normal subject. Why to ridicule and make a mockery of it. That’s true even today whenever we come across a man who seems to be gay as per his mannerisms, we talk hush hush giggle pointing at him. That’s true as I use to work in media industry, most of the make up person or stylist use to be gay, and people use to be normal with them but make fun of them behind their back. I mean this is so unacceptable. It is just the matter of choice, there is nothing wrong in it. Infact it took a legal turn to when government has to announce that 377 is legal now, means it was such an offence that a penal code was assigned to it why because there was lot of hue and cry regarding it mainly in the form of activists that it is ruining the prestige of their religion whereas there is no where in any religious book it is mentioned to crush someone’s independence.

Now let’s talk about “Aids”, though now I believe it’s no longer a taboo still I have come across many intellectual people who do believe that maintain distance with people having “Aids”. Years back I was watching movie “Phir Milenge” starring Shilpa Shetty and Salman Khan, I was watching the movie with one of my creative director for a T.V Show, I just mouthed out words like what lame people are these who are sacking her for being HIV positive, to which my director counter attacked what’s wrong in this, it’s always better to be safe. I was really amazed by her senses. How will you get impacted in being around with such person. But that’s true. Some people even today have this myth in them that HIV positive people are contagious. All I can say is if at all you have some kind of mental turbulences, please educate yourself before being paranoid. Firstly being HIV Positive does not mean the person has AIDS and secondly even if the person has Aids it’s fine he or she would be taking treatment and let the person live the life with full dignity with whatever time he or she is left with. Don’t ridicule or embarrass the person.

Live life with full grace.

Tripts🌸

Social Media Ideals

I know the title seems too wierd. What I meant here is that people posts too idealistic quotes on social media, but do they really mean it. No, trust me I know such people, infact public figures who posts too idealistic quotes like being positive, genuine soul etc etc but in reality they are exact opposite to it.

I never post such things on social media because our mind works in mysterious manner. Today we are positive, tomorrow we can be negative and the other day might get involve in immoral activities, we cannot predict our personality, it keep on changing. First of all develop humanity. Be kind to everyone. We all lack this virtue including me. I don’t think I am a genuine soul, if for once you became jealous of someone, made fun of someone’s appearance or spoke ill about someone then you are human not genuine. And that is why giving motivational gyan on social media is far from being true. They post to gain followers, more and more likes. I have worked in media industry and know many such people who are completely different off screen. And that’s not wrong but why to be saints on social media. Be who you are. I don’t feel ashamed saying that I am fake at times, negative and jealous being. Because I am human. One should be kind from inside and then they won’t have to give gyan to others and they will automatically have millions of followers.

Love

Tripts❤️

Slangs… Just words or disrespect!!!

As far as slangs used in English language as a part of conversation it’s all cool. However, I never like when people used ethnicity based slurs to define people. It is all in bad taste, very disrespectful! But for people it’s all in humour. Keeping names for the people you are friendly with is okay but using slangs in generic terms is really not acceptable.

Like for example very common one is “Chinky” that refers to mostly people with Chinese origin. Same way “Nigger” is the word used for black people mostly in USA. And the most offensive term I hate personally is “Katua” or “Mullah” to describe people of Muslim origin. And what is amazing is that people find pride and fun while calling these names out. I never liked, when I use to work and when my seniors use to joke about taking these slangs, I use to keep quiet, no point in correcting these so called high profile, sophisticated, intellectual and elite class. They know everything and if you correct them you are either spoiled sport or trying to be classy and modest.

So I stopped correcting anyone now. But I feel we should not be using derogatory term for anyone and just for once try to step in their shoes, how will you feel if someone does that to you.

Have a lovely and joyous day.

Love

Tripts🥰

The Intern

When I started working in Mumbai in T.V industry, I used to be embarrassed quite a while because everyone out there were so young to me, even my creative directors and I was working as their juniors, all because I started too late.

But then one day while net surfing I came across this wonderful movie that changed my mindset all together. Well, even if you are working with your younger ones as your seniors, there is no need to be embarrassed if you are dedicated, hardworking, focused and most important wearing a smile whole time at work.

At the end how does it matter what age you are till the time you know your job and love your job and even if people sometime talk about you or seem surprised for your age, that’s okay. You be confident because at the end confidence is what matters and trust me slowly people will love you.

Love

Tripts…

Depression & Suicide…

The psychotically depressed person who tries to kill herself doesn’t do so out of “hopelessness”… not because death seems suddenly appealing. The person… will kill herself the same way a trapped person will eventually jump from the window of a burning high-rise… Their terror of falling from a great height is still just as great as it would be for you or me… The variable here is the other terror, the fire’s flames when the flames get close enough, falling to death becomes the slightly less terrible of two terrors.

Bit high to understand but meaning is deep hidden, if you can understand the person’s silence, you will understand this as well😇

Love

Tripts

My Name Is Khan!

This movie is one of my favourite and I can watch it umpteen no of times. No, not because of SRK or Karan Johar. It is my favourite due to the fact I always believed and it was portrayed in the movie. Back in 2010 when this movie was released, I watched in theatre and I cried, I cried a lot. Not because I got emotional, yes ofcourse this movie was emotional but I cried out of happiness. Simply because I was happy finally someone said what I was saying whole of these years and people were arguing with me. No one agreed with me.

The point I am trying to make here is that why we bracket Muslims. Not all Muslims are terrorists, not all Muslims are bad. Yes I do agree that they are rigid religiously. If hypothetically we believe also that all Muslims are very cynical then too what you all do, outcast them, demean them, look down upon them. They have certain ways of thinking and worshiping. They behave differently but that’s okay. If you say that they don’t pray our God or enter our temples, that’s okay, but you don’t stop going to mosques. Why you have to start comparisans.

When I was doing graduation, I still remember I have a very good friend and batchmate Iftikhar with me who use to walk with me till my hostel gate every day. The dean of my university was Brahmin like me. Once the guards caught us thinking us to be couple took our I.d cards, not to miss our exams were near. The guard saw our I.d cards, looking at my name Tripathi and his name being Khan, they gave back my card and kept his, we both pleaded but he yelled and asked us to leave. He paid the price for dropping me hostel safely though we were never in love. I genuinely felt bad for him and I never saw him again after that day.

This is just one incident that happened with me, there are no of such incidents that happen with people every now and then especially when they travel abroad. Why???? Muslims are people just like us. I have read Quran and it also teaches what other religious pictures teaches us. No difference at all. Yes I agree terrorism mostly has Muslims but does that mean we should start hating overall Muslims. No!!!

Infact when Pulwama Attack happened in Feb 2019, it is so ironic that what Mr. Navjot Singh Sidhu said for which he was condemned a lot I said exactly the same a day before that, even if the attack has been done by Pakistan, to blame entire Pakistan people is wrong.

I know many people will hate me for writing this, may be they will also call me anti Indian but all I am saying is humanity is above all and using terms for Muslims like “Mullah” “Katua” etc is derogatory. Not acceptable at all. Treat Muslims with equality and pride. They are human too like us. No need to look them down upon. Yes and I do believe that not all of them are terrorists.

Love, Peace and Humanity.

Tripts.

Kangana Ranaut… Perfect example why education is a must!!!

Well the title seems offensive and derogatory. Sorry for it but as far as Kangana is concerned in her language “Who cares” 🙈

Since long I wanted to write about her but something was stopping me. But today I thought to express myself rather than keeping in. As this is what she does. So Ms. Kangana thinks it is her birth right to talk on almost all the relavant and irrelevant things happening around us. Well it is good to voice out your opinion but in a descent manner. She almost targets everyone in her post who is not of her view. Targeting is also acceptable but using such foul and crass language is just bizzare.

And the amazing part is that she actually thinks highly of herself. She is the epitome of superiority complex. And the best example is her Twitter intro. It always makes me laugh and sometimes a thought crosses my mind that she shouldn’t have been given national award and to make the matters worse she got Padma Shree award too. No no not jealous of her. She is a talented actress no doubt but now she only considers herself to be the only actress who makes Bollywood movies worth watching and who is fighting with all the biggies still surviving in this big bad world, why because she is a “DIVA”. No one can beat her and no one can even stand next to her because she is that talented that no one to dare to come near her. This is her mindset.

There is a thing called humility, compassion, kindness, being humble, polite. These are the virtues which am sure she has not heard. I doubt she barely respect anyone. It was her good luck that Tanu weds Manu and Queen worked because I have seen her earlier movies, she has also done some b grade movies when she was setting her foot in Bollywood and am very sure if these fims won’t have worked she would be ready to work with Ram Gopal Verma forget the 3 khans she is seen always bashing. She started dating Aditya when she wanted to make contacts and when she became leading actress made the affair public gaining public sympathy as she knows when and how to use victim card very well.

It is high time she should learn to be humble and polite, she has long way to go. She is talented and will be getting movies no doubt but to go long way you need to be a good human being because this arrogance will not take you long way.

Anyways this was not my anger just my views as to why this creature even exists😂

Spread kindness

Tripts❤️

Blogging???

“Blogging” what is blogging? Basically it is meant to share your ideas and express your thoughts. When I started to write blogs, I was suffering with depression that too major ones so I thought of using write therapy as suggested by one of my friend. But I didn’t realised when I became the monster who started writing about people or I should say demeaning them. And the worst part was also shared it on social sites for the world to see. But I didn’t realise that this writing that is meant to bring out the best in you is bringing out the worst in me.

There were many people who got hurt but still I had this “I don’t care attitude” which refrained me from being apologetic. Anywhich ways I had been a pessimistic person since very early age and this has instilled all the more negativity in me. Well I have now realised that your blogs should be positive in nature, it should influence people motivate them to do well in life, moreover educate them in some way and also to understand oneself.

Well, the bottom line is we all are made up of mistakes and the best part is we realise it sooner or later. There shouldn’t be any room for guilt and embarrassment later. I was like this monster who was telling people how bad the world is and how great I am. But I was wrong. I am not a good writer, still learning. I would request to all just spread positivity here. We should only spread love, there is already so much hatred going on. I have learnt my lesson hard way and after loosing some beautiful people in my life, yes ofcourse big “APOLOGY” to them. But that’s okay a good human being is the one who addresses the mistakes, rectifies it and never commit the same. Yes you are allowed to do new ones though 😂

So folks, let’s spread positivity and love as much as we can.

Love and only love

Tripts