depression mental health happiness

Monster in Brain

It’s been long time since I have written anything and this also I am doing on the regular insistence of one of my fan, well just kidding he is a dear friend. And usually on request people generally come up with something peppy and positive but the kind of state I am in I do not think I would be able to come up to motivate someone. In fact writing something is also taking lot of efforts still I will try. And for few of you who would be reading for a change I wouldn’t be naming anyone so you all can relax 😅

Well, so I have written a lot about mental health and there is nothing new I will write but I will try to give you peep into someone’s mind especially the one who is battling depression. Well, to start with in today’s world of social media people talk a lot about mental health, it’s like it gives you brownie points to be sensible, mateured and intellectual, however ironically it’s not the case. Because you might seem to be someone who know a lot about mental health and encourage depressive people to seek medication which in reality is not the case.

Well I am not against psychiatric treatment and medication, in fact I do believe in it. But it is so funny the people close to you will make you believe that you are suffering from some mental health issue and should seek treatment but the same people lack compassion, empathy and sympathy for you. I have always spoken about the incidents I have faced in life hence I talk on facts and not imaginations. Well what are those incidents I’ll talk in another blog as I already said that I wouldn’t name shame anyone.

So, these days I am not in correct mindset. My mind is tired because it is working round the clock then my body should have. Overthinking is still okay but my mind has a monster sitting in my mind which constantly sends red flag to me the moment I fell asleep which rarely happens that wake up you have to kill yourself and as soon as I wake up there is a peculiar pain in my chest and my mind is not allowing anything positive to come in, it just tells me this world is not for you. You don’t belong here, common let’s get up and leave forever. If I do not leave my bed I gets even more trapped in captivity of my monsterous mind.

This is not the story of only one me but thousands of those suffering from mental health issue, and trust me it gives you a feeling that you are completely alone though you might be having 1000 of friends. Well it is really easy to judge such people and motivate them but more than that you have to be with them, you don’t have to make them believe anything just stay with them constantly irrespective of their non sensical approach to life. I am sure 99.9 percent people do exact opposite of this. I am talking from my own experience. Many of my closed ones and friends even family have left me because I am really difficult to live with. You know this makes a person even more sick.

Trust me it is only you and your love can cure a person with loads of sadness inside, not some professional, that comes at later stage, you have given up at first only on your loved one. So here I leave you with the thought, yes the person is having mental health issue, yes the person is difficult, yes the person is not lisitening but is it okay to maintain distance with them, till yesterday when they were fun loving, entertaining and fun to be around you all loved her company, today when you find her bit abnormal, you no longer want to be around. Think about it can happen to anyone, will you like such behaviour if they were you.

All said and done I am with them who think they are lonely. If you want you can drop a comment, I won’t leave your hand❤️

Stay happy, stay healthy and keep going

Lots of love

Tripts

Compassionate Lisitening

Before we talk about comapassionate lisitening, let us understand what is compassion, in simple words it means understanding. Hence, compassionate listening is understanding the suffering without any judgements or advices. Be the person with whom someone in stress can share his or her ordeals and fights related to life also may be with all the wrong perceptions and ideas about situations and people around them. They don’t need to be corrected at the time when they are coming to you in hope of some relief.

When a person is in stress all he/she needs is someone who will lisiten without any judgements, even if they are completely wrong. Be the bin where they can just dump all the garbage inside them. What most of us do is we try to tell them how they have turned situation against them, how they have messed up everything and what they need to do to correct everything in life. No, they don’t need your advice at that point in life when they themselves are suffering a lot inside. Just lisiten to them what they have to say and your reaction should be silently “Everything will be allright” look.

People talk a lot about mental health and how one should be helped to deal with stress and depression and anxiety, but do they really do something about it when it comes to them in person. I have gone through this personally when I have been advised how I should change myself when I am telling that what I have done was wrong and admitting to it. And its not about individual experience if someone talks to me opening up and also telling me that they have done nothing wrong where at the back of the mind I know that’s not right, but I do not correct them because I know emptying themselves will lighten their hearts and eventually people do realise what was their mistake and what they have done was wrong. You do not have to be their teacher at the time of stress.

If you can be a dumping bag for them, it will really help them and they will not find themselves all alone in this fight called “LIFE”. Be the one, Be the Compassionate Listeners.

Have a happy day!

Love and Light

Tripts ❤️

Depression

I have earlier written about this however deleted it later on as I realised that I was not being natural and writing what I have been told or heard or may be read, but today after lot of realisations and sufferings I have been able to depict it more powerfully and naturally and again these are just my observations and realisations, the reality may differ from individual to individual.

Till today I really do not understand what actually depression means. I even don’t know if I actually suffer from depression or not but yes I certainly observes sadness in me from time to time and it has been years since I have been feeling this way. I could never feel happy from within. I am liked by people at first instance when they meet me because they find me vivacious, entertaining and funny but they hardly know that this is the personality I am showing them and it is not my real self, it is my desperate attempt to be loved and accepted, and it satisfies me when people are pleased with me because there is somehow lot of sadness in me that constantly tries to convince me that I will end alone and that is also the reason that I do not say NO to people on lot many instances when I should have said No, just so that they all should like me and be with me always but opposite happens.

However, this is not my concern, my concern here is that people talk a lot about mental illness and how one should help an individual suffering but do they really care. The answer is no. No counselling, medication and psychiatrist can help an individual if the person is lonely at heart and those to whom they turn in hope turns their back or refuse to understand their dilemma. I could never be happy being with people around and then I was told, “No matter how mush we do for you, its never enough”, they fail to understand that may be I want to but I just can’t. Like I will quote an example here, in 2019 I was in USA at my brother’s place for vacation. He use to take me out on social gatherings with his friends in USA, but i use to sit alone while my brother and his wife have fun, chit-chat. And later at home my brother once yelled “We do all this to keep you happy and in return what you do, sit alone”. I was heartbroken but couldn’t make bhaiya understand, what goes in me I want to enjoy but just can’t. This took me back in the days when I was living with awesome flatmates in Mumbai, they planned a surprise party on my birthday however I told them few days earlier that please do not organise anything for me because I knew I won’t be happy. But they did, their intentions were obviously nice but i just sat in my room and at the end they stopped talking to me and later yelled that “If this is your nature no one will ever like you”. I was quiet. All the insults, humiliation is fresh in me.

My question here to everyone here is that have you all really tried to understand what a person’s heart is feeling, why the person feels lonely amidst the hell lot of people. Then why to humiliate the person, when they themselves do not understand why they are experiencing this pain. They want to be happy but can’t. Sometimes, you have to just keep patience with them. It is not an easy task, but if you can’t do that then do not tell them, you need therapy.Their best therapy would be your love, family’s support. Sometimes’s they just need someone to listen to them without any judgement and advice. Depression is something which makes the person suffer without any reason. Your kindness can heal them miraculously.

Try to understand them and be polite. You are their Councillor, not some person who is paid to hear them. Only your love and support can cure them.

Love and Light

Tripts