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Compassionate Lisitening

Before we talk about comapassionate lisitening, let us understand what is compassion, in simple words it means understanding. Hence, compassionate listening is understanding the suffering without any judgements or advices. Be the person with whom someone in stress can share his or her ordeals and fights related to life also may be with all the wrong perceptions and ideas about situations and people around them. They don’t need to be corrected at the time when they are coming to you in hope of some relief.

When a person is in stress all he/she needs is someone who will lisiten without any judgements, even if they are completely wrong. Be the bin where they can just dump all the garbage inside them. What most of us do is we try to tell them how they have turned situation against them, how they have messed up everything and what they need to do to correct everything in life. No, they don’t need your advice at that point in life when they themselves are suffering a lot inside. Just lisiten to them what they have to say and your reaction should be silently “Everything will be allright” look.

People talk a lot about mental health and how one should be helped to deal with stress and depression and anxiety, but do they really do something about it when it comes to them in person. I have gone through this personally when I have been advised how I should change myself when I am telling that what I have done was wrong and admitting to it. And its not about individual experience if someone talks to me opening up and also telling me that they have done nothing wrong where at the back of the mind I know that’s not right, but I do not correct them because I know emptying themselves will lighten their hearts and eventually people do realise what was their mistake and what they have done was wrong. You do not have to be their teacher at the time of stress.

If you can be a dumping bag for them, it will really help them and they will not find themselves all alone in this fight called “LIFE”. Be the one, Be the Compassionate Listeners.

Have a happy day!

Love and Light

Tripts ❤️

Irrfan Khan – A Gem

What does it mean, Irfan means “Knowledge” “Awareness” and “Learning”. And it is so amazing that this legend perfectly suited his name and glorified its meaning.

I have never been an artist crazy person but this is one such person who has left a deep impact on me not only as an artist but also as a human being. One should learn from him how to be a human being first, rest all other things will fall in place. There are so many things about him that if I start writing about them I would have to write a biography.

I still cannot think him as a dead being, it still feel that he is around. It is fortunate that atleast he acted in movies so atleast we can have a glimpse of him whenever we want. Seeing him never felt like he is an actor, it always felt like some genuine soul is creating a magic. He was a good soul overall. Recently I saw his interview that was taken in 2016 where he was seen arguing with Muftis and Maulanas. His thoughts were bang on. It was how I use to think and always fought with people that not all Muslims are bad. I even got inspired to read Quran and I did.

I really feel sad that such an amazing soul is not between us. Infact I remember during the lockdown when I was in Mumbai last year, I woke up with the news that Irrfan Khan admitted to hospital, and I immediately murmured to myself irritably “Please don’t die I am already in stress, what rubbish is this now”, as that time I was low due to lockdown as I was unable to go to my hometown. And next day the news was everywhere he is no more. My eyes were teary. It happened with no other star who died, infact not even with Sridevi being my favourite. That was also because I never saw him as an actor, for me in my mind it was always like he is a nice human being, though I have never met him and this is one regret with which I will have to live my entire life that I won’t be able to see this amazing soul ever in my life.

I remember whenever there was any movie which starred Irrfan Khan I use to watch it without any second thought. I watched Piku and Lunchbox don’t know how many times. All I can say is will miss you Irrfan Sir. I love you from the bottom of my heart and wish that you always smile as a rising star looking down upon us.

Love and only Love

Tripts.

Married? NO!!! Why??

Hmmm, big question🤪 Tough one to answer! More than an IAS question I guess. Since long I wanted to write something on this, however whenever I thought of writing I fall short of words. But today I thought of just scribbing whatever is there in my mind without thinking if my grammar is proper or my vocabulary is fabulous.

Marriage? What is marriage??? If we go by meaning it would be like something “A sacred institution where two souls compatible to each other meet” Blah Blah Blah… But in reality marriage is something that just happens when two individuals meet, and are destined to mingle into one entity. But what if there is someone who is 25 plus and not married. Now, is that a shameful act? Or is the filth and negativity in my head? I am a single individual, my friends of my age are married and some are even having kids. Now, the reasons could be many. Not necessarily depressive ones or may be. You can’t say! But my point is why this one is so relevant a question to ask a single individual, the most important one. Off lately I came across some of my old friends with whom I was not in touch since quite a long time, and guess what the first question they asked me “Hey, are you married? No, Why? To begin with, yes they all are happily married and well settled in life.

To answer let me first begin with a happy smile that NO there is no sad story but sometimes things just don’t happen. I do not have one perfect answer as to why I am still single. May be I was not suppose to marry, may be I am not the right individual that any guy would like to settle with, may be I have adjustment issues or may be it still is not the right time… May be, May be, May be… No answer! Now tell me if you meet me at some point in life and find me still single what answer should I give you.

Earlier I was not upset of not getting married. I was a strong individual but now I am getting weak, my friends who ask me why aren’t am married don’t fail to amaze me by even giving me advice to get married as it is the only BIG necessity in life. Sometimes I feel like hiding somewhere where no one knows me, but I know that is also not an option. If I was some big personality having crores in my account, may be still then some people atleast would shut themselves if not all because then I would be having loads of money to take care of and most importantly enough to shut people, but I don’t even have that much money. No am not feeling sorry for myself because not getting married was my personal choice, but looking at societal mindset I do feel sorry for my parents because even though they don’t say anything but I do know somewhere they wanted deep in their hearts how good it would be if their daughter was married like other’s.

Sometimes I wonder where is people’s compassion towards others. If I see someone not married or not having a baby, I do not ask this question because somewhere I know it would pinch them deep down, if not all may be some. But why they do not think before asking especially if they are married that their question might hurt the person the question is being directed to. People should definitely have COMPASSION towards their fellow beings, may be they generically ask and do not intend to hurt anyone but if at the age of 40 someone is not married there might be some reason which they might not want to answer and might feel embarrassed to even address this question. And then it becomes socially awkward for such people to come in public and embrace their own selves be their own true original self. And how funny it is that then you only ask “What happened, you are not you anymore”.

I know nothing will change, this will keep on going and it’s okay people of our parents age won’t change, there is whole generation which we need to cover so we can ignore but what for the people of our age, can’t they develop “Understanding”, “Love” and “Respect” for the people of their own age group. Why can’t you be accepting? This is one question that all of us needs to ask ourselves and then we might expect some positive change in society in coming times.

And remember as someone rightly said once “Singleness is not a sickness, a sin, or a problem. Single people are not broken and they do not need to be fixed”. Stop feeling pity for them and be happy with them and enjoy with them like you use to once when you were friends when you were young 😘

Am I right OR I am right😂🌸❤️

Tripts!!!

Me too or Tool to smash all “Men”

For many it seems very insensitive for a female to say this, but let’s really understand what it is all about. This word first came in light in 2006 by the social activist Tarana Burke where a little girl confided in her about her molestation and she later regretted that she should have said Me too which means if someone talks about her child abuse or any kind of sexual assault, to make her feel comfortable you can simply utter Me too that is that don’t worry I also have faced similar situation in life and you are not alone. That is it but it has been taken to some other level to satisfy ones own vendetta. Sad but true.

Personally, I do not believe in Mee too movement. I am not saying that all those coming forward has not suffered any such incident in their lives. They may have gone through such trauma, but there are some women who try to milk the situation. Isn’t it sad, we try to take opportunity of being a women. Trust me whenever these incidents happened with the so called “Victims” they had chance to go to police and unmask the culprits but they rather chose to keep quiet and open up after few years. Or let say they couldn’t go due to some x,y,z reason but now what is the point of coming forward after years and doing social media trials, and even if after so many years you think of opening up then also they will not go to police but what will prefer writing on social platforms. Major question is WHY??? How will it benefit you. Someone sexually assaulted you then why not taking police help to punish them. By coming on social media you just want to take revenge, that is crystal clear, you have no agenda in mind to get them punished. Then it becomes a reason to satisfy your personal motives.

Like for example in Vinta Nanda case, she herself has stated in her interview which could be verified as it is in public domain that when Alok Nath harassed her she kept quiet because she herself was struggling and wanted to make her mark in the industry so that means women also agrees to certain level for their personal gains, this is just one example I quoted there are many such cases, but my only point is that stop maligning Men out there. Women today are not weak. Stop presenting yourselves to be vulnerable. If you have been molested please speak up at the right time and do not wait for 3 to 4 years because that ways even if there are some genuine ones they will fade. I hope am making some sense to some people atleast. Being a women I strongly condemn this movement called #MeToo!!!

Love

Tripts❤️

Infidelity OR Finding love after marriage

Now, this is strange of me writing a blog on infidelity, however, I dont call it infidelity I say it to find love after marriage. Earlier, if you would have met me 10 years before, I would have bashed you right, left and centre. I still remember how much I hated Sridevi for marrying Boney Kapoor because for me she was a homebreaker. People will not agree to me and I will agree to their disagreement because I myself never believed in it and if you ask me I myself would never do that to any other girl or get involved with a married person, however, as an individual if you ask me about it I would say there is nothing wrong in it.

Yes, I know I have raised eyebrows of many by making such a statement but why is it wrong or who are we to pass on the judgement. We as a society is pure judgemental and that is what we know best to do, but do we really care. Do we really extend a helping hand to the person in need. No, but to crticise, ridicule, judge we all are there. We have only one life to live and we have full right to live it the way we want and if after marriage we find love elsewhere it is okay to move ahead and embrace that love of ours. Why to bother what people will say, will they guarantee to take care of your happiness always NO. In my opinion, if you are married, there are no signs of abuse and your husband is also pretty descent still you feel no connection with him, and some one else enters your life and you feel driven towards him or her, why not embrace him/her. You have to live this life to fullest not just drag it like some animal. You are worried about people,they will talk for a day or two and then will get back to their regular selves. So please think about what is right now infront of you, may be tomorrow this also won’t be there and you will spend rest of your life with guilt and regret and unhappiness.

I know many people will be angry reading this post that I am supporting Infidelity, no not at all,I am supporting Love. If love is not there, rest everything is meaningless. What are you more concerned about – the people questioning me here? The seven promises you made while marriage. or the vows you have taken as per different religion of marriage, and what about a living being, you don’t think that the person should be more important than any promises you made.The happiness should matter. If a person is unhappy but everyday is getting up with an emptiness inside, will that justify your promises. Problem with all of us is that our entire lives we are just saving our values, morals, and god knows what on the stake of one life. In my view a life is above all anything on this goddam earth. And if you talk about GOD then our body is our god, god is in us. If we can keep our being happy, all the promises are fullfiled automatically.

So folks what are you waiting for, lisiten to your heart don’t wait anyone to tell you whats right and whats wrong. There is no such thing as right or wrong. The thing which is right for me can be wrong for you and vice versa. So live your life full without any regrets.

See ya until next time my lovelies ❤

Bollywood – An Opium For Masses

Off lately I have been following up Sushant Singh Rajput’s case a lot. There had been lot many high profile cases in the past but nothing really affected me, may be because I knew this is a brutal world and whether we like it or not we all are a part of it. So there was a sense of acceptance “Sab chalta hai, yahan aisa hi hota hai”. However, with SSR case I got deeply involved whether intentionally or unintentionally. Every day watching news and going in deep analysis about how things unfolded made me wonder what circus is this. And now this incident has become an integral part of my life till the time I am alive. And I must confess that I have been deeply impacted with the death of this person we lovingly call Sushi.

I have been an avid follower and ardent fan of Bollywood, ever since I was born. Infact as a child I wanted to be an actress. I also use to dislike when my brother commented on actresses that they do all sort of shitty stuff to get into films as he never approved the glamour industry as a profession. I use to fight that how can you say such thing, they must have worked really hard. I even use to read all film magazines like Stardust, Filmfare, Cineblitz etc.etc. more than the books in my course. Films use to run in my blood. Infact my brother use to joke if you need any information like who is dating whom ask Tripti she is film encyclopaedia. So much I loved movies.

However, things have taken a drastic turn for me. And I have never in my life imagined that my perception for film industry will ever change or I would get influenced so much that I would start hating it to the core. And this is completely my opinion, I do not want to get into any debate or influence anyone with my thoughts. I will still not say that Film Indstry is bad and nepotistic because that every industry is. You will have to learn to survive. But what is making me sad and depressed day by day is the hypocrisy and self centerdness of people all over in this industry.

A person dies and you stay quiet. When the death of Sushant happened all of you actors out there posted condolence messages all over the social sites, but no one bothered to meet his family or attend his funeral. Alright for this I would give you all benefit of doubt for the pandemic going on. But, not a word for the actor. What is the point of making movies on social causes and also speaking up on various platforms about mental health and giving motivational speeches. All that was fake and I was unnecessarily getting impressed by these people, so called “Heroes” and “Heroines”.

It pains me to know that a person was really cornered when he was alive. Now, people can say, it’s just media that is portraying Bollywood in bad light, don’t trust them. But it’s not just media, I have seen his interviews, posts on social media, it reflected his state of mind. And moreover it was evident, that he was disliked or cornered, only he could have answered why but unfortunately he is gone. I am not going as per word of mouth but I have done my own detailed analysis by watching his no. of interviews, videos and conclusion that I drew was that he was a simpleton, naive guy who tried to may be put a street smart face on him which he wasn’t, he didn’t knew how to manipulate, or be in good books. Maintain terms socially or select wise people for him. He was highly emotional and wanted everyone’s validation. He wanted that everyone should like him, praise him, people shouldn’t say bad about him, he use to get affected by people a lot. That was his biggest problem and may be that was one of the reasons that took his life. I will not get into debate whether he was murdered or he committed suicide, because we don’t know and will never know what really happened on fateful 14th afternoon. And I am pretty sure the case would be closed in a month or two without any conclusion and people will move on with their lives, the same people who are shouting justice for Sushant and Boycott Bollywood.

Fact is no one really cares how you feel, humanity is dead. Big powerful people are involved, everyone knows but still nothing will happen. Bollywood is keeping quiet, why, he was also a talented actor, one amongst you and still you don’t feel a thing for him. You don’t raise questions, Why??? Mahesh Bhatt talks like a big gyan guru in various interviews but his words does not match his actions. My favourite Amitabh Bachchan talks a lot about the teachings his “Babuji” gave him but mum on SSR death, Deepika Padukone still post about depression and how to overcome but not a word on how this young guy who is dead now must have felt when he was alive. My all time fav, my hero, Amir Khan doesn’t care, he will make shows like “Satyamev Jayte” but when the time is for real Satya there is no Satya from him at all. And most importantly King Khan who has always impressed me not because of his acting but his motivational speeches and inspiring stories in various colleges, he will post just condolence message on his demise and that’s it. And the list goes on.

It makes me really pathetic how everyone in Bollywood is silent and don’t want to comment. Forget about death, when he was alive that time also they were least bothered. It makes me wonder what world are we living in where someone else’s misery does not shake us. Everytime I see his video or movie or news on T.V, tears roll down automatically, even if I don’t want to cry. I simply want to put myself off from this industry. Yes ofcourse I would like to confess here that I am a media person so for my livelyhood I might be connected to this industry somehow but that would be strictly professional now and no emotions attached, yes that’s wierd that a person like me is saying this who is overtly emotional. But the truth now is, their misery will not move me because now I know they all are fake, meaningless individual. Their existence is a shame to humanity.

I hereby makes a promise to myself no more Bollywood. No movies, award shows, T.V shows etc. etc. I know I am a petite creature on this planet so no one really cares and I am not doing this to bring any change because the fact is nothing will change ever. So, I can do my bit. I cannot fake anymore. Miss you Sushant, you are at a happy place now. This world does not deserve you.

Folks be nice and wise to all!!!

Please don’t let humanity die in us…

Love and only Love.

Tripts ❤️

Sushant Singh Rajput – Death Of Humanity

Today while writing I cannot stop crying. Words have died, I really have to check google for a different vocabulary. What is wrong with me, why can’t I stop myself from thinking about him, he was not my favourite actor, but a talented persona, yes I will agree. When he transformed himself from television actor to film actor, I always use to think that number of T.V actors try their luck in films but none gets success as much as Sushant has achieved, and they all should learn from him, how to actually proceed in right direction.

I do not know what is right and what is wrong. Just going by the stories I am hearing, I am even no one to judge anyone or pass any judgement as now people are talking about movie mafia, nepotism etc.etc. But one thing for sure I know that humanity has died. Why people cannot see other person growing. If he was an outsider, and was trying to make his mark in this film fraternity, who gave the right to the so called elite class of our society to bully him in their own way. Why cannot he do movies and yet get the distributors. Anyways these are all nitty gritty of film industry where I do not want to go because as a matter of fact I do not know the details. But when Karan Johar tweets about his death, Alia Bhatt talks about his sudden demise, it seems we have come to the point where sensitivity is dead inside us and all what matters is being fake. Why can’t a person outside the industry be welcomed with a big hug and huge smile. Why you have to find ways anyhow to stop him/her from working ahead. It is not about Sushant committing suicide. Even if he is not dead and is with us, still the fact remains the same. Why this hatred amongst us. Someone is doing good in life, great, motivate the person. Even encourage and if you are at some prestigious position try to help the person. What will happen if you will be friendly to the person or meet him/her on some occasions. Why you have to team up against the person. I really want someone to please help me with the definition of “Humanity”. What does it actually mean.

While writing all this I remember what my brother used to tell me on many occasions “Tripti stop feeling pity on others, it will do no good to you” And yes he was right, he wanted my betterment, but being sensitive towards other being is not Pity and I do not pity Sushant but all I can see is death of humanity. People are becoming heartless, more and more money and not even less I would say zero emotions in them. What is the use of this money. In bollywood there are big banners, their fathers struggled, made money and now their sons are keeping their names and banners alive but on what stake. You are ruthless, heartless, emotionless and even humanless I would say. And to top it you have the guts of posting fake condolence messages. I mean why, it’s fine someone died, you didn’t murdered the person, he died because he could’t bear the drama, but why you have to show the concern to the world, just to establish that you are a wonderful human being, But I suppose your films will still make money, your banner will still be on top, newcomers will still want to be associated with your banner, so it hardly affects you or your name so stop being fake. You were not with the person when he was alive, now anyways it is just a body so why posting sweet messages? For us???

I have been a big time movie lover and will continue to watch movies may be of Alia Bhatt, Karan Johar and Yash Raj too but for me now they are just some robots who try to serve entertainment to us that is it. I wish and pray in coming times there should not be any more Sushant.

Love and only Love People 🙂

Priyanka Chopra – A Global Icon or A Troll Star

I know the title itself looks too tacky but isn’t it true. A name that is a brand in itself. Yet there is one thing really special about her that is trolling. Don’t you think it’s high time that we need to acknowledge Priyanka’s contribution to our society as an individual. We should start looking at her beyond being a filmstar or a beauty pageant winner. She is much more than that as an individual. We first of all needs to understand what trolling means. Cheap Internet plus No Education equals to Trolls. No offence though to anyone’s intellectuality.

Whether it is May 2017, where Priyanka’s meeting with our honourable Prime Minister Mr. Narendra Modi in Berlin was targetted or waving her tricolour dupatta on 15th Aug 2017 or getting a cover photoshoot for Instyle magazine in July 2019 that goes blouseless saree, all we are concerned are her clothes. We can’t see or don’t want to see all the other works that Priyanka has been doing except her clothes. Can’t we see that she has put our Indian cinema on international maps. And if we are talking about one specific incident that is latest, her cover photoshoot that was blouseless saree for Instyle Magazine, let me remind you all that in our ancient sculptures it is clearly stated that women go topless. Not to forget that blouse was actually a british export.

Latest she was called a hypocrite by a youtuber Ayesha Malik for her Jai Hind Tweet to Indian Armed Forces. And there was a great hue and cry of her to be removed as UNICEF goodwill ambassador. Now before we get into any serious discussion on the issue just have a look at her journey as a UNICEF ambassador. In Sept 2017, she visited Syrian Refugee children and she was trolled for not visiting the children of her own country. But why can’t we appreciate her philanthropic gesture without any comparison. She has been working with UNICEF for 12 years in the welfare of children, wherein she has served 10 years in India as a UNICEF goodwill ambassador. Does that not count. She has visited refugee children from all over the world.

Infact Pakistan making such a big noise of her being a hypocrite, let me remind that when Pulwama attack happened there were condolences coming from all over the world for our Indian soldiers who lost their lives except from Pakistan. Where was the peace and harmony then. This rant of Priyanka should stop somewhere. I deeply gets saddened whenever I see that people completely disregard for what ever good and humanitarian she is doing however they get too involved in whatever she is doing in her personal space.

So the thought for all of us – Learn to acknowledge the good and ignore the petite things which doesn’t even matter.

Love to all

Tripts.