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Social Media Ideals
I know the title seems too wierd. What I meant here is that people posts too idealistic quotes on social media, but do they really mean it. No, trust me I know such people, infact public figures who posts too idealistic quotes like being positive, genuine soul etc etc but in reality they are exact opposite to it.
I never post such things on social media because our mind works in mysterious manner. Today we are positive, tomorrow we can be negative and the other day might get involve in immoral activities, we cannot predict our personality, it keep on changing. First of all develop humanity. Be kind to everyone. We all lack this virtue including me. I don’t think I am a genuine soul, if for once you became jealous of someone, made fun of someone’s appearance or spoke ill about someone then you are human not genuine. And that is why giving motivational gyan on social media is far from being true. They post to gain followers, more and more likes. I have worked in media industry and know many such people who are completely different off screen. And that’s not wrong but why to be saints on social media. Be who you are. I don’t feel ashamed saying that I am fake at times, negative and jealous being. Because I am human. One should be kind from inside and then they won’t have to give gyan to others and they will automatically have millions of followers.
Love
Tripts❤️
Depression & Suicide…
The psychotically depressed person who tries to kill herself doesn’t do so out of “hopelessness”… not because death seems suddenly appealing. The person… will kill herself the same way a trapped person will eventually jump from the window of a burning high-rise… Their terror of falling from a great height is still just as great as it would be for you or me… The variable here is the other terror, the fire’s flames when the flames get close enough, falling to death becomes the slightly less terrible of two terrors.
Bit high to understand but meaning is deep hidden, if you can understand the person’s silence, you will understand this as well😇
Love
Tripts
Mental illness – Certified Madness
“Depression” what is it. What kind of illness is it? Is it a term used in English language, a disease or a myth. Over sometime I have realised that when someone is diagnosed with a disease called depression, that person is certified wrongdoer, means if something happens, and the person tries to put his or her side, it is always termed as “Oh that one is depressed, have mood swings etc etc, she or he needs therapy, that means she can never be right, why because she is depressed.
A person who goes through mental illness has the capability of thinking and understanding. She may have her versions to tell. She should be heard, acknowledged too. If someone commit suicide there also very easily it is blamed on the depression, that he/she was depressed and then comes all the fancy terms like “Bipolar Disorder” “Clinical Depression” “Schizophrenia” etc etc. For people you are suffering from mental illness that means whatever you say or believe is all in your mind, your imagination. You can never be right. There is overdeveloped sympathy for you. You are certified “Bechari” for everyone. You can no longer be a strong independent individual because you are suffering from some kind of mental illness.
It is so funny that first these people tell you that you are mentally ill then introduce you to some psychiatrist and then never let you live a normal life. Your whole life you are dependent on medicines and counsellors. If ever you try to talk about something that is not right, you are asked “Have you stopped taking your medicines”. In your head you have already accepted that this person is MAD, but you will not say it because you are an intellectual part of this society.
I would like to sum up here by saying that yes depression does exist, there are some forms of mental illness that do exist. But at the same time the depression survivors have brain to think, they can be intellectuals too. They can be right in lot many things. All you need is to be a compassionate lisiteners, where a person can lighten there hearts and all the baggage they have. Also treat them as normal human beings. Just because they are depressed does not mean, they don’t have right to feel bad, hurt and raise their voice and if they in worst case commit suicide, we should not assume that they were depressed so died and close the matter. They can be abused, threatened or going through certain situations in life which is not right.
Remember “Depression” is a illness that is weakness and sadness hidden in heart. It has nothing to do with your mind, that can very well think and rationalise.
Love
Tripts
Sharing is not caring anymore!
We have grown up hearing this phrase “Sharing is caring”, in schools we use to hear this while on picnics to share our tiffin, and later it became sharing of thoughts. But as the time is changing it seems sharing is actually not caring anymore. When you share your emotional turbulences with people or most precisely your friends, they tend to use it against you or may be later trying to tell you how negative you are and how great they are to still be with you inspite of your reckless behaviour.
It is really sad and then it is termed as you being a difficult person. I don’t know whether I am depressed or not but whatever I have shared with my friends all these years have come infront of me in a very distasteful manner. I had a close friend whom I thought of being transparent infront of her as I thought I can be myself but one day on being asked about my personality, she replied that you have hell lot of emotional issues etc etc, all what I shared being troubled, was presented in a way that I am too emotional and disturbed soul who is difficult to please. Then one of my cousin said that I spoke to you because you are very lonely and no one to talk to, I have many friends you have none, making me realise that I am someone to be felt pity for and then recently one of my actor friend also said that I supported you when everyone else left you, irrespective of me being a celebrity so on and so forth.
All this makes me wonder, was all this worthy for.I shared things out of emotions, being vulnerable and what you all did, made me feel like a loser, someone who should be pittied at, someone who is not wanted, not accepted and you are doing favour at her. So now I think it was rather good if I wouldn’t have opened up about myself at all. Then why all these big big seminars do sweet talks such as share yourself and talk your heart out, when you do so you are later on mocked.
I don’t feel angry on those who came in my life just feel sad for me that I was thinking that people lisitening to me are really my friends and my emotions are worth for giving a ear.
Have a nice day with happy thoughts and genuine people around❤️
Trust
Let’s begin with what is Trust. It is a belief that someone is good, honest and sincere. Why I chose to write on this topic is because I have been a victim of trust since long. I trust people easily and that has been my biggest problem. I am not a shrewd, street smart person who can use opportunity to her benefit. No offence to anyone but may be the world functions this way and I am a misfit in here. And specially after SSR death case I have lost respect for everyone. Infact I use to be Arnab’s fan but recently with the chain of events I saw that everyone is settling their scores no one is genuine, no one is wanting to give justice to Sushant they are just working to satisfy their political vendetta. So I was least bothered when he was arrested all I cared was that a genuine soul is no more between us. This is a brutal world we are living in.
So coming back to trust, when someone mails me “Tripti I will always be at your side” or they message me “You are my soul sister, I Love you” I start trusting these people that I have genuine friends but the fact is these words are just words which ideally people don’t intend to follow in their actions. I have started writing blogs since last 1 year when I was in USA and was diagnosed with depression and so I started writing those things that bother me instead of telling that person as a part of my therapy. It somehow relieves me because I am a kind of person who cannot fight.
You know I can’t be fake and am not fake at all. These blogs are my way of venting out my frustration and depression.
Last but not the least remember this in life “Breaking someone’s trust is like crumpling up a perfect piece of paper, you can smooth it over but it’s never gonna be same again.
Love and Light.
Why being judgemental ???
Being judgemental is the biggest disease of our country. I believe almost everyone here is judgemental, you will rarely find a “Species” who is not judgemental and who takes people and situations the way it is. I am also not away of this disease however have made lot of improvement in this area and hence am able to write a blog on this. Earlier I use to be hell lot of judgemental about everyone, but as they say na Karma is above all, I was hit so hard by Karma that I understood the effect it has on others so now I have stopped being judgmental though I am judged a lot.
So what if someone is not married at the age of 40, so what if someone is still virgin at the age of 40, so what if someone does not have interest in politics or is not updated of current affairs, so what if someone is not having babies after being married for 10 years, so what if someone is having only girl children and no boys, so what if someone at the age of 40 behaves kiddish and do not show signs of maturity, so what if someone only have boys as friends and no girlfriends, so what if being a girl someone loves to smoke and drink and party, so what if someone likes to sit in the room when the party is going out and so the list goes on.
At the end we all are humans. We can have different lifestyles, different choices and different mindset which gives us happiness, who gives you authority to judge that person. Does that person harm you in any way. There are some people who are really strong headed who give a damm what people say or think about them. Good!!! But there are some people, those the weaker section of society who do gets impacted with people’s way of judgements about them. First of all you all should know that there are other things going on someone else’s life which you are not aware of so your words or actions might add up to that misery they are facing. And even if everything is cool why not leave them alone.
Like I can give example of my own family without naming the very close member of my family always judges me by the kind of posts I put on social media, or my being filmy or the set of friends I have especially boys. Sometimes I do get embarrassed by that look in her eyes. Those look are really sarcastic. I feel low, embarrassed in my own self. My point here is if you are doing something does that mean I should do the same to fit in the intellectual circuit. Why, why can’t one be him or herself without being judged. It is very easy to give someone Gyan but it is difficult to follow that yourself.
Stop judging people, welcome them with open arms and a smile on your face. It would make a difference and then this world would be even more beautiful place to live in. And please for heaven sake stop saying “Log kya kahenge” Log waise bhi kahenge, aap kuch bhi kar lein. So do what your heart truly believes in, our society is such that it will never stop judging you because it’s their birth right, they were born with this power to belittle others and question them on every single thing they do.
Well, still we shouldn’t leave a ray of hope in us.
Keep loving and spreading positivity😇
Tripts
Married? NO!!! Why??
Hmmm, big question🤪 Tough one to answer! More than an IAS question I guess. Since long I wanted to write something on this, however whenever I thought of writing I fall short of words. But today I thought of just scribbing whatever is there in my mind without thinking if my grammar is proper or my vocabulary is fabulous.
Marriage? What is marriage??? If we go by meaning it would be like something “A sacred institution where two souls compatible to each other meet” Blah Blah Blah… But in reality marriage is something that just happens when two individuals meet, and are destined to mingle into one entity. But what if there is someone who is 25 plus and not married. Now, is that a shameful act? Or is the filth and negativity in my head? I am a single individual, my friends of my age are married and some are even having kids. Now, the reasons could be many. Not necessarily depressive ones or may be. You can’t say! But my point is why this one is so relevant a question to ask a single individual, the most important one. Off lately I came across some of my old friends with whom I was not in touch since quite a long time, and guess what the first question they asked me “Hey, are you married? No, Why? To begin with, yes they all are happily married and well settled in life.
To answer let me first begin with a happy smile that NO there is no sad story but sometimes things just don’t happen. I do not have one perfect answer as to why I am still single. May be I was not suppose to marry, may be I am not the right individual that any guy would like to settle with, may be I have adjustment issues or may be it still is not the right time… May be, May be, May be… No answer! Now tell me if you meet me at some point in life and find me still single what answer should I give you.
Earlier I was not upset of not getting married. I was a strong individual but now I am getting weak, my friends who ask me why aren’t am married don’t fail to amaze me by even giving me advice to get married as it is the only BIG necessity in life. Sometimes I feel like hiding somewhere where no one knows me, but I know that is also not an option. If I was some big personality having crores in my account, may be still then some people atleast would shut themselves if not all because then I would be having loads of money to take care of and most importantly enough to shut people, but I don’t even have that much money. No am not feeling sorry for myself because not getting married was my personal choice, but looking at societal mindset I do feel sorry for my parents because even though they don’t say anything but I do know somewhere they wanted deep in their hearts how good it would be if their daughter was married like other’s.
Sometimes I wonder where is people’s compassion towards others. If I see someone not married or not having a baby, I do not ask this question because somewhere I know it would pinch them deep down, if not all may be some. But why they do not think before asking especially if they are married that their question might hurt the person the question is being directed to. People should definitely have COMPASSION towards their fellow beings, may be they generically ask and do not intend to hurt anyone but if at the age of 40 someone is not married there might be some reason which they might not want to answer and might feel embarrassed to even address this question. And then it becomes socially awkward for such people to come in public and embrace their own selves be their own true original self. And how funny it is that then you only ask “What happened, you are not you anymore”.
I know nothing will change, this will keep on going and it’s okay people of our parents age won’t change, there is whole generation which we need to cover so we can ignore but what for the people of our age, can’t they develop “Understanding”, “Love” and “Respect” for the people of their own age group. Why can’t you be accepting? This is one question that all of us needs to ask ourselves and then we might expect some positive change in society in coming times.
And remember as someone rightly said once “Singleness is not a sickness, a sin, or a problem. Single people are not broken and they do not need to be fixed”. Stop feeling pity for them and be happy with them and enjoy with them like you use to once when you were friends when you were young 😘
Am I right OR I am right😂🌸❤️
Tripts!!!
Bollywood – An Opium For Masses
Off lately I have been following up Sushant Singh Rajput’s case a lot. There had been lot many high profile cases in the past but nothing really affected me, may be because I knew this is a brutal world and whether we like it or not we all are a part of it. So there was a sense of acceptance “Sab chalta hai, yahan aisa hi hota hai”. However, with SSR case I got deeply involved whether intentionally or unintentionally. Every day watching news and going in deep analysis about how things unfolded made me wonder what circus is this. And now this incident has become an integral part of my life till the time I am alive. And I must confess that I have been deeply impacted with the death of this person we lovingly call Sushi.
I have been an avid follower and ardent fan of Bollywood, ever since I was born. Infact as a child I wanted to be an actress. I also use to dislike when my brother commented on actresses that they do all sort of shitty stuff to get into films as he never approved the glamour industry as a profession. I use to fight that how can you say such thing, they must have worked really hard. I even use to read all film magazines like Stardust, Filmfare, Cineblitz etc.etc. more than the books in my course. Films use to run in my blood. Infact my brother use to joke if you need any information like who is dating whom ask Tripti she is film encyclopaedia. So much I loved movies.
However, things have taken a drastic turn for me. And I have never in my life imagined that my perception for film industry will ever change or I would get influenced so much that I would start hating it to the core. And this is completely my opinion, I do not want to get into any debate or influence anyone with my thoughts. I will still not say that Film Indstry is bad and nepotistic because that every industry is. You will have to learn to survive. But what is making me sad and depressed day by day is the hypocrisy and self centerdness of people all over in this industry.
A person dies and you stay quiet. When the death of Sushant happened all of you actors out there posted condolence messages all over the social sites, but no one bothered to meet his family or attend his funeral. Alright for this I would give you all benefit of doubt for the pandemic going on. But, not a word for the actor. What is the point of making movies on social causes and also speaking up on various platforms about mental health and giving motivational speeches. All that was fake and I was unnecessarily getting impressed by these people, so called “Heroes” and “Heroines”.
It pains me to know that a person was really cornered when he was alive. Now, people can say, it’s just media that is portraying Bollywood in bad light, don’t trust them. But it’s not just media, I have seen his interviews, posts on social media, it reflected his state of mind. And moreover it was evident, that he was disliked or cornered, only he could have answered why but unfortunately he is gone. I am not going as per word of mouth but I have done my own detailed analysis by watching his no. of interviews, videos and conclusion that I drew was that he was a simpleton, naive guy who tried to may be put a street smart face on him which he wasn’t, he didn’t knew how to manipulate, or be in good books. Maintain terms socially or select wise people for him. He was highly emotional and wanted everyone’s validation. He wanted that everyone should like him, praise him, people shouldn’t say bad about him, he use to get affected by people a lot. That was his biggest problem and may be that was one of the reasons that took his life. I will not get into debate whether he was murdered or he committed suicide, because we don’t know and will never know what really happened on fateful 14th afternoon. And I am pretty sure the case would be closed in a month or two without any conclusion and people will move on with their lives, the same people who are shouting justice for Sushant and Boycott Bollywood.
Fact is no one really cares how you feel, humanity is dead. Big powerful people are involved, everyone knows but still nothing will happen. Bollywood is keeping quiet, why, he was also a talented actor, one amongst you and still you don’t feel a thing for him. You don’t raise questions, Why??? Mahesh Bhatt talks like a big gyan guru in various interviews but his words does not match his actions. My favourite Amitabh Bachchan talks a lot about the teachings his “Babuji” gave him but mum on SSR death, Deepika Padukone still post about depression and how to overcome but not a word on how this young guy who is dead now must have felt when he was alive. My all time fav, my hero, Amir Khan doesn’t care, he will make shows like “Satyamev Jayte” but when the time is for real Satya there is no Satya from him at all. And most importantly King Khan who has always impressed me not because of his acting but his motivational speeches and inspiring stories in various colleges, he will post just condolence message on his demise and that’s it. And the list goes on.
It makes me really pathetic how everyone in Bollywood is silent and don’t want to comment. Forget about death, when he was alive that time also they were least bothered. It makes me wonder what world are we living in where someone else’s misery does not shake us. Everytime I see his video or movie or news on T.V, tears roll down automatically, even if I don’t want to cry. I simply want to put myself off from this industry. Yes ofcourse I would like to confess here that I am a media person so for my livelyhood I might be connected to this industry somehow but that would be strictly professional now and no emotions attached, yes that’s wierd that a person like me is saying this who is overtly emotional. But the truth now is, their misery will not move me because now I know they all are fake, meaningless individual. Their existence is a shame to humanity.
I hereby makes a promise to myself no more Bollywood. No movies, award shows, T.V shows etc. etc. I know I am a petite creature on this planet so no one really cares and I am not doing this to bring any change because the fact is nothing will change ever. So, I can do my bit. I cannot fake anymore. Miss you Sushant, you are at a happy place now. This world does not deserve you.
Folks be nice and wise to all!!!
Please don’t let humanity die in us…
Love and only Love.
Tripts ❤️
Sushant Singh Rajput – Death Of Humanity
Today while writing I cannot stop crying. Words have died, I really have to check google for a different vocabulary. What is wrong with me, why can’t I stop myself from thinking about him, he was not my favourite actor, but a talented persona, yes I will agree. When he transformed himself from television actor to film actor, I always use to think that number of T.V actors try their luck in films but none gets success as much as Sushant has achieved, and they all should learn from him, how to actually proceed in right direction.
I do not know what is right and what is wrong. Just going by the stories I am hearing, I am even no one to judge anyone or pass any judgement as now people are talking about movie mafia, nepotism etc.etc. But one thing for sure I know that humanity has died. Why people cannot see other person growing. If he was an outsider, and was trying to make his mark in this film fraternity, who gave the right to the so called elite class of our society to bully him in their own way. Why cannot he do movies and yet get the distributors. Anyways these are all nitty gritty of film industry where I do not want to go because as a matter of fact I do not know the details. But when Karan Johar tweets about his death, Alia Bhatt talks about his sudden demise, it seems we have come to the point where sensitivity is dead inside us and all what matters is being fake. Why can’t a person outside the industry be welcomed with a big hug and huge smile. Why you have to find ways anyhow to stop him/her from working ahead. It is not about Sushant committing suicide. Even if he is not dead and is with us, still the fact remains the same. Why this hatred amongst us. Someone is doing good in life, great, motivate the person. Even encourage and if you are at some prestigious position try to help the person. What will happen if you will be friendly to the person or meet him/her on some occasions. Why you have to team up against the person. I really want someone to please help me with the definition of “Humanity”. What does it actually mean.
While writing all this I remember what my brother used to tell me on many occasions “Tripti stop feeling pity on others, it will do no good to you” And yes he was right, he wanted my betterment, but being sensitive towards other being is not Pity and I do not pity Sushant but all I can see is death of humanity. People are becoming heartless, more and more money and not even less I would say zero emotions in them. What is the use of this money. In bollywood there are big banners, their fathers struggled, made money and now their sons are keeping their names and banners alive but on what stake. You are ruthless, heartless, emotionless and even humanless I would say. And to top it you have the guts of posting fake condolence messages. I mean why, it’s fine someone died, you didn’t murdered the person, he died because he could’t bear the drama, but why you have to show the concern to the world, just to establish that you are a wonderful human being, But I suppose your films will still make money, your banner will still be on top, newcomers will still want to be associated with your banner, so it hardly affects you or your name so stop being fake. You were not with the person when he was alive, now anyways it is just a body so why posting sweet messages? For us???
I have been a big time movie lover and will continue to watch movies may be of Alia Bhatt, Karan Johar and Yash Raj too but for me now they are just some robots who try to serve entertainment to us that is it. I wish and pray in coming times there should not be any more Sushant.
Love and only Love People 🙂
Tripts 