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Shame

This is what I deals with most of the times!!!

Most people who live with depression live with some sort of shame. Whether it’s shame about who you are: I am not good enough, smart enough, successful enough, pretty enough, thin enough. Shame about what depression has turned you into: I’m not productive enough, reliable enough, happy enough. Shame about being depressed at all: I’m not normal enough. Shame about not being able to control all these disturbing thoughts: I’m not enough.

Embarrassment while similar to shame is still very different. Embarrassment is situational and occurs when the image you want to project to the world takes a hit and there are spectators.

Shame and guilt are not same either. Guilt can often be a positive emotion that helps you after your behaviour- if you believe you have behaved badly and it pushes you to behave more morally in future. Guilt is all about making amends while shame is about isolating, hiding and escaping.

Essentially shame causes you psychological pain so that you can see mistakes that you’re making and correct yourself.

Certainly most people dealing with mood or anxiety disorders seem to have an overdeveloped ability to feel shame.

Love

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Saree!!!

Now a days saree has become a real taboo. If you wear saree it has to be a special occasion. Either some boys parents are coming to see you or you are going for some event or may be you are an air hostess. Whatever it is but it cannot be a regular wear like jeans, skirts or frocks.

In earlier times women use to wear saree as their daily wear. I love wearing saree. I feel comfortable and beautiful both in saree. Oh and yes not to forget you can look sexy too in saree, you don’t have to necessarily wear short dress to look sexy and hot. People should really change their mindset. And forget people talking about individuals wear what makes you happy and not give up on societal pressure. I have a good collection of saree and I wear it anytime I want even if at home sometimes and if that makes me “Behenji” as some people says who cares after all it’s your body.

Happiness always

Tripts🌸

Awards???

Now a days, Awards has become a big joke. Gone are the days when awards were given on the basis of sheer talent. But today all you need to be in the good books. Maintain relationships, be fairly nice to the award community basically be a yes man and the award is yours.

Initially when Amir Khan banned Filmfare awards I found it bit funny, I thought so big deal, it happens everywhere, he should take light. But now even National Awards has lost its credibility. It has more or less become the present government ruled awards. Well, I do not disagree with the talent of those who recieve the award, however I do feel the more deserving candidate does not receive the awards. Like, back in 90’s I still do not understand how come Meenakshi Sheshasri did not recieve award for much acclaimed “Damini” and Amir Khan for “Rangeela”. And the list is long.

I remember in 1 of the interview Kangana said “If I don’t recieve award for “Manikarnika”, National Awards credibility would be questioned and here you go she gets the award, however nonetheless she is talented and brilliant actress but not for national award, she got national award only because she is Headhearted BJP supporter. Not only Kangana when Akshay got National award for Rustom instead of Amir for Dangal it was quite disheartening.

Filmfare has anywhich ways lost its credibility way back but now National Awards has lost its credibility too, for what these awards are given Talent NO. So why this drama. Now even the most prestigious awards like Padam Shree is under Radar. For what kind of contribution Ekta Kapoor was given. Deserving people will never ever get the much acclaimed awards.

Anyways, this circus is never ending and will go on. No matter how talented you are, if you are the one who knows how to keep the “Power” happy, then it’s yours.

Love

Tripts

My Name Is Khan!

This movie is one of my favourite and I can watch it umpteen no of times. No, not because of SRK or Karan Johar. It is my favourite due to the fact I always believed and it was portrayed in the movie. Back in 2010 when this movie was released, I watched in theatre and I cried, I cried a lot. Not because I got emotional, yes ofcourse this movie was emotional but I cried out of happiness. Simply because I was happy finally someone said what I was saying whole of these years and people were arguing with me. No one agreed with me.

The point I am trying to make here is that why we bracket Muslims. Not all Muslims are terrorists, not all Muslims are bad. Yes I do agree that they are rigid religiously. If hypothetically we believe also that all Muslims are very cynical then too what you all do, outcast them, demean them, look down upon them. They have certain ways of thinking and worshiping. They behave differently but that’s okay. If you say that they don’t pray our God or enter our temples, that’s okay, but you don’t stop going to mosques. Why you have to start comparisans.

When I was doing graduation, I still remember I have a very good friend and batchmate Iftikhar with me who use to walk with me till my hostel gate every day. The dean of my university was Brahmin like me. Once the guards caught us thinking us to be couple took our I.d cards, not to miss our exams were near. The guard saw our I.d cards, looking at my name Tripathi and his name being Khan, they gave back my card and kept his, we both pleaded but he yelled and asked us to leave. He paid the price for dropping me hostel safely though we were never in love. I genuinely felt bad for him and I never saw him again after that day.

This is just one incident that happened with me, there are no of such incidents that happen with people every now and then especially when they travel abroad. Why???? Muslims are people just like us. I have read Quran and it also teaches what other religious pictures teaches us. No difference at all. Yes I agree terrorism mostly has Muslims but does that mean we should start hating overall Muslims. No!!!

Infact when Pulwama Attack happened in Feb 2019, it is so ironic that what Mr. Navjot Singh Sidhu said for which he was condemned a lot I said exactly the same a day before that, even if the attack has been done by Pakistan, to blame entire Pakistan people is wrong.

I know many people will hate me for writing this, may be they will also call me anti Indian but all I am saying is humanity is above all and using terms for Muslims like “Mullah” “Katua” etc is derogatory. Not acceptable at all. Treat Muslims with equality and pride. They are human too like us. No need to look them down upon. Yes and I do believe that not all of them are terrorists.

Love, Peace and Humanity.

Tripts.

Guzarish

This is one movie I have watched I don’t know how many times. Not that this is one of my fav movies, I even don’t know why I watch this movie. However, one thought that always crops my mind while watching this movie is that why euthanasia is not legal in our country.

I know many people while reading this might get me wrong but I think if a person is in lot of pain and suffering, won’t it be nice to stop the persons suffering by allowing him or her to leave for heavenly abode. It is really painful to live a life with no meaning at all, depending on others to even breathe. It is easy to give motivational lectures stating “Life is beautiful” but actually for the person in suffering every moment of life is painful.

We should release the person from any kind of pain and suffering and bid a happy goodbye. It would be so peaceful for the person. After all what is life all about “Happiness” Right? So, why not release the person from any kind of suffering and let the person be in peace and that would really be “Rest in Peace”, meaningful. Isn’t it!!!

Love and Peace

Tripts

Mental illness – Certified Madness

“Depression” what is it. What kind of illness is it? Is it a term used in English language, a disease or a myth. Over sometime I have realised that when someone is diagnosed with a disease called depression, that person is certified wrongdoer, means if something happens, and the person tries to put his or her side, it is always termed as “Oh that one is depressed, have mood swings etc etc, she or he needs therapy, that means she can never be right, why because she is depressed.

A person who goes through mental illness has the capability of thinking and understanding. She may have her versions to tell. She should be heard, acknowledged too. If someone commit suicide there also very easily it is blamed on the depression, that he/she was depressed and then comes all the fancy terms like “Bipolar Disorder” “Clinical Depression” “Schizophrenia” etc etc. For people you are suffering from mental illness that means whatever you say or believe is all in your mind, your imagination. You can never be right. There is overdeveloped sympathy for you. You are certified “Bechari” for everyone. You can no longer be a strong independent individual because you are suffering from some kind of mental illness.

It is so funny that first these people tell you that you are mentally ill then introduce you to some psychiatrist and then never let you live a normal life. Your whole life you are dependent on medicines and counsellors. If ever you try to talk about something that is not right, you are asked “Have you stopped taking your medicines”. In your head you have already accepted that this person is MAD, but you will not say it because you are an intellectual part of this society.

I would like to sum up here by saying that yes depression does exist, there are some forms of mental illness that do exist. But at the same time the depression survivors have brain to think, they can be intellectuals too. They can be right in lot many things. All you need is to be a compassionate lisiteners, where a person can lighten there hearts and all the baggage they have. Also treat them as normal human beings. Just because they are depressed does not mean, they don’t have right to feel bad, hurt and raise their voice and if they in worst case commit suicide, we should not assume that they were depressed so died and close the matter. They can be abused, threatened or going through certain situations in life which is not right.

Remember “Depression” is a illness that is weakness and sadness hidden in heart. It has nothing to do with your mind, that can very well think and rationalise.

Love

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Love…

Recently I was re watching “Nishabd”. Back in 2007 when the movie released, I was also critical of Mr.Bachchan and the movie as well. However, today I think Love is love, it does not understand any barriers, be it age, religion, caste, creed, community or even gender. There is nothing legal or moral when it comes to Love. May be that’s why it is said “Everything is fair in love”.

So what if a 70 year old man fell in love with a 20 year old girl. Even if he is married and has a 20 year old daughter. Love is a feeling, it is a beautiful emotion. When it overpowers you, it does not see anything else but only your heart. Even if you are married for 30 years, there is a possibility that your heart might beat for someone you just meet. But why is it difficult for society to accept that Love is Love beyond anyone’s restrictions and expectations.

You feel for someone strongly and express it. Why you have to criticise or abandon him or her. Your heart and soul belongs to an individual per say, no one else should have a say in it. Love should be treated with love and not with hatred and judgements. When I watched the movie, I couldn’t understand why the wife and daughter had to abandon him filled with hatred and disgust. He liked being in someone’s company. It made him happy, it should not be termed as cheating on his wife.

It is strange to see people being so judgemental about it. Guys, always be supportive of Love, irrespective of how and which form it is coming. Everyone has the right to feel it. Though I as an individual has always experienced pain in it still I would say that it is a beautiful emotion and I completely believe and support it’s sanctity.

So feel love, believe in love and embrace love.

Love

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Blogging???

“Blogging” what is blogging? Basically it is meant to share your ideas and express your thoughts. When I started to write blogs, I was suffering with depression that too major ones so I thought of using write therapy as suggested by one of my friend. But I didn’t realised when I became the monster who started writing about people or I should say demeaning them. And the worst part was also shared it on social sites for the world to see. But I didn’t realise that this writing that is meant to bring out the best in you is bringing out the worst in me.

There were many people who got hurt but still I had this “I don’t care attitude” which refrained me from being apologetic. Anywhich ways I had been a pessimistic person since very early age and this has instilled all the more negativity in me. Well I have now realised that your blogs should be positive in nature, it should influence people motivate them to do well in life, moreover educate them in some way and also to understand oneself.

Well, the bottom line is we all are made up of mistakes and the best part is we realise it sooner or later. There shouldn’t be any room for guilt and embarrassment later. I was like this monster who was telling people how bad the world is and how great I am. But I was wrong. I am not a good writer, still learning. I would request to all just spread positivity here. We should only spread love, there is already so much hatred going on. I have learnt my lesson hard way and after loosing some beautiful people in my life, yes ofcourse big “APOLOGY” to them. But that’s okay a good human being is the one who addresses the mistakes, rectifies it and never commit the same. Yes you are allowed to do new ones though 😂

So folks, let’s spread positivity and love as much as we can.

Love and only love

Tripts

Dil Se…

Love People, Love the world around you, Love animals and birds, Love big cities and mountains, Love dreams, Love your friends, Love your enemies, Love your work but most importantly love yourself.

Embrace all that this life has in store for you. Let your heart be as deep as the deepest ocean and as wide as the farthest horizon. Know that it is limitless. Love is not an excuse to grab or to hold on, to own or to barter. It is the only excuse you will ever have to call yourself especial and if someone you love let’s you down, don’t fall yourself for not trusting him or her, fought yourself for not trusting your love enough to forgive his or her trespassers.

You never know what the future will bring, whether there will be a tomorrow or not. Live as hard as you can in this very moment, live now, live today. You will not see it with your youthful eyes, but now as much time as you will ever get, because tomorrow we will all be dead. And just in case there is no cycle of rebirth etc why take a chance.

Lastly, I want to tell everybody that how important your today is. Study hard, work hard, play harder. Don’t be bound by rules, don’t hurt anybody, never grow up and never ever live someone else’s dream. Remember no matter how many times you go wrong, how many times you fail, despair, feel like this world is against you: In the words of Bob Marlin- “At the end everything’s gonna be alright”.

Love

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Be yourself!!!

All the names that you give yourselves or those that others call you are just labels, you are not defined by them no matter how flattering or uncomplimentary they are. What defines you genuinely is your heart.

Redefine yourself if you have to but do it on your own terms and just get on with it. Don’t forget where you came from, please don’t forget who really are. It’s ought to be the compass by which you navigate through life’s institutes, that keeps you oriented despite the series of misfortunes and showers of privilege.

Whatever it is that is pulling you back it’s not going away unless you stand up and start forging your own path with all your might in the opposite direction, stop whining and start moving so to speak. Sadness and happiness are the same qualities of transience, life is a balance exchange of one with the other. Don’t attach yourself to either, they both are going to change with the same certitude, take them with the ephemeral spirit of their impermanence and manage them with the healthy dose of good human, laugh at yourself when you are despairing.

❤️

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