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Guzarish

This is one movie I have watched I don’t know how many times. Not that this is one of my fav movies, I even don’t know why I watch this movie. However, one thought that always crops my mind while watching this movie is that why euthanasia is not legal in our country.

I know many people while reading this might get me wrong but I think if a person is in lot of pain and suffering, won’t it be nice to stop the persons suffering by allowing him or her to leave for heavenly abode. It is really painful to live a life with no meaning at all, depending on others to even breathe. It is easy to give motivational lectures stating “Life is beautiful” but actually for the person in suffering every moment of life is painful.

We should release the person from any kind of pain and suffering and bid a happy goodbye. It would be so peaceful for the person. After all what is life all about “Happiness” Right? So, why not release the person from any kind of suffering and let the person be in peace and that would really be “Rest in Peace”, meaningful. Isn’t it!!!

Love and Peace

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Mental illness – Certified Madness

“Depression” what is it. What kind of illness is it? Is it a term used in English language, a disease or a myth. Over sometime I have realised that when someone is diagnosed with a disease called depression, that person is certified wrongdoer, means if something happens, and the person tries to put his or her side, it is always termed as “Oh that one is depressed, have mood swings etc etc, she or he needs therapy, that means she can never be right, why because she is depressed.

A person who goes through mental illness has the capability of thinking and understanding. She may have her versions to tell. She should be heard, acknowledged too. If someone commit suicide there also very easily it is blamed on the depression, that he/she was depressed and then comes all the fancy terms like “Bipolar Disorder” “Clinical Depression” “Schizophrenia” etc etc. For people you are suffering from mental illness that means whatever you say or believe is all in your mind, your imagination. You can never be right. There is overdeveloped sympathy for you. You are certified “Bechari” for everyone. You can no longer be a strong independent individual because you are suffering from some kind of mental illness.

It is so funny that first these people tell you that you are mentally ill then introduce you to some psychiatrist and then never let you live a normal life. Your whole life you are dependent on medicines and counsellors. If ever you try to talk about something that is not right, you are asked “Have you stopped taking your medicines”. In your head you have already accepted that this person is MAD, but you will not say it because you are an intellectual part of this society.

I would like to sum up here by saying that yes depression does exist, there are some forms of mental illness that do exist. But at the same time the depression survivors have brain to think, they can be intellectuals too. They can be right in lot many things. All you need is to be a compassionate lisiteners, where a person can lighten there hearts and all the baggage they have. Also treat them as normal human beings. Just because they are depressed does not mean, they don’t have right to feel bad, hurt and raise their voice and if they in worst case commit suicide, we should not assume that they were depressed so died and close the matter. They can be abused, threatened or going through certain situations in life which is not right.

Remember “Depression” is a illness that is weakness and sadness hidden in heart. It has nothing to do with your mind, that can very well think and rationalise.

Love

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Love…

Recently I was re watching “Nishabd”. Back in 2007 when the movie released, I was also critical of Mr.Bachchan and the movie as well. However, today I think Love is love, it does not understand any barriers, be it age, religion, caste, creed, community or even gender. There is nothing legal or moral when it comes to Love. May be that’s why it is said “Everything is fair in love”.

So what if a 70 year old man fell in love with a 20 year old girl. Even if he is married and has a 20 year old daughter. Love is a feeling, it is a beautiful emotion. When it overpowers you, it does not see anything else but only your heart. Even if you are married for 30 years, there is a possibility that your heart might beat for someone you just meet. But why is it difficult for society to accept that Love is Love beyond anyone’s restrictions and expectations.

You feel for someone strongly and express it. Why you have to criticise or abandon him or her. Your heart and soul belongs to an individual per say, no one else should have a say in it. Love should be treated with love and not with hatred and judgements. When I watched the movie, I couldn’t understand why the wife and daughter had to abandon him filled with hatred and disgust. He liked being in someone’s company. It made him happy, it should not be termed as cheating on his wife.

It is strange to see people being so judgemental about it. Guys, always be supportive of Love, irrespective of how and which form it is coming. Everyone has the right to feel it. Though I as an individual has always experienced pain in it still I would say that it is a beautiful emotion and I completely believe and support it’s sanctity.

So feel love, believe in love and embrace love.

Love

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Kangana Ranaut… Perfect example why education is a must!!!

Well the title seems offensive and derogatory. Sorry for it but as far as Kangana is concerned in her language “Who cares” 🙈

Since long I wanted to write about her but something was stopping me. But today I thought to express myself rather than keeping in. As this is what she does. So Ms. Kangana thinks it is her birth right to talk on almost all the relavant and irrelevant things happening around us. Well it is good to voice out your opinion but in a descent manner. She almost targets everyone in her post who is not of her view. Targeting is also acceptable but using such foul and crass language is just bizzare.

And the amazing part is that she actually thinks highly of herself. She is the epitome of superiority complex. And the best example is her Twitter intro. It always makes me laugh and sometimes a thought crosses my mind that she shouldn’t have been given national award and to make the matters worse she got Padma Shree award too. No no not jealous of her. She is a talented actress no doubt but now she only considers herself to be the only actress who makes Bollywood movies worth watching and who is fighting with all the biggies still surviving in this big bad world, why because she is a “DIVA”. No one can beat her and no one can even stand next to her because she is that talented that no one to dare to come near her. This is her mindset.

There is a thing called humility, compassion, kindness, being humble, polite. These are the virtues which am sure she has not heard. I doubt she barely respect anyone. It was her good luck that Tanu weds Manu and Queen worked because I have seen her earlier movies, she has also done some b grade movies when she was setting her foot in Bollywood and am very sure if these fims won’t have worked she would be ready to work with Ram Gopal Verma forget the 3 khans she is seen always bashing. She started dating Aditya when she wanted to make contacts and when she became leading actress made the affair public gaining public sympathy as she knows when and how to use victim card very well.

It is high time she should learn to be humble and polite, she has long way to go. She is talented and will be getting movies no doubt but to go long way you need to be a good human being because this arrogance will not take you long way.

Anyways this was not my anger just my views as to why this creature even exists😂

Spread kindness

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Blogging???

“Blogging” what is blogging? Basically it is meant to share your ideas and express your thoughts. When I started to write blogs, I was suffering with depression that too major ones so I thought of using write therapy as suggested by one of my friend. But I didn’t realised when I became the monster who started writing about people or I should say demeaning them. And the worst part was also shared it on social sites for the world to see. But I didn’t realise that this writing that is meant to bring out the best in you is bringing out the worst in me.

There were many people who got hurt but still I had this “I don’t care attitude” which refrained me from being apologetic. Anywhich ways I had been a pessimistic person since very early age and this has instilled all the more negativity in me. Well I have now realised that your blogs should be positive in nature, it should influence people motivate them to do well in life, moreover educate them in some way and also to understand oneself.

Well, the bottom line is we all are made up of mistakes and the best part is we realise it sooner or later. There shouldn’t be any room for guilt and embarrassment later. I was like this monster who was telling people how bad the world is and how great I am. But I was wrong. I am not a good writer, still learning. I would request to all just spread positivity here. We should only spread love, there is already so much hatred going on. I have learnt my lesson hard way and after loosing some beautiful people in my life, yes ofcourse big “APOLOGY” to them. But that’s okay a good human being is the one who addresses the mistakes, rectifies it and never commit the same. Yes you are allowed to do new ones though 😂

So folks, let’s spread positivity and love as much as we can.

Love and only love

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Loneliness & its mental health impact

Loneliness is a subjective feeling that people are not with you, people don’t understand you, you don’t feel connected, you feel alone. And what’s interesting is loneliness is different from social isolation. It is really ironic that someone can have wide network of people around them and still feel lonely. And that is majorly my problem as well. Being surrounded with people I always feel lonely. So that means lonelyness and social isolation are 2 different things. And I fall in 2nd category.

So let’s talk about people who are socially connected still lonely. So first of all we need to understand what is the quality of interaction we have if we say we are socially connected and a lot of people will say that we are mostly connected socially online a lot these days, that means the social connectivity that we feel is not in real life, then secondly when you are connecting with people are you making yourself vulnerable. Because in reality online everyone portray the perfect life, no one displays the imperfections so first of all you have to decide are you willing to do that and as a result the person you are doing this is willing to receive this. Here I would like to state a beautiful quote “Compassionate listening is giving permission to the other person to empty their heart.” – Thich Nhat Hanh.

And now so how do we become Compassionate listeners? Compassion is empathy in action and empathy is gateway to compassion. Listening is very important without judgement, without imposing your point of view. That means we need to be that someone who can listen and give you the space to unload yourself. And trust me being a compassionate listener is a Privilige, a quality that most of us are lacking today.

Self Discipline

Set your life on fire and seek those who fan your flames, the translation of that is don’t be hanging with the people that don’t help you shine, the prerequisite for spending time with any person is that they nourish and inspire you, they feed your flames, look around, look to the people around, the people that you spend time with are gonna make or break dreams. Everybody don’t deserve to be around you. You got a defend your life with your life, so who are the people in your life that are fanning your flames.

The people who shout out loud say some encouraging stuff, funnily are those who are not willing to make their dreams come true. And it’s actually ironic everybody wants to go heaven but nobody wants to die. And it comes to the conclusion that Self Discipline is the centre of all material success. You cannot win the war against the world if you can’t win the war against your own mind.

When you are in victim mode you are stuck in suffering, the road to power is in taking responsibility. Your heart, your life, your happiness is your responsibility and your responsibility alone. Taking responsibility, accepting responsibility is not an admission of guilt, taking responsibility is a recognition of the power that you seized when you stop blaming people. It’s not you are letting somebody who wronged you off the hook like taking responsibility is an act of emotional self defence, taking responsibility is taking your power back

And if it makes sense to even 1 percent, it’s like half the battle won already 😊

Self Pity

I have been victimising a lot but the truth lies in what have you learnt so far from your failures and are you ready for the next ride of life yet again or are you going to sulk… Choice is yours!

If you invest your time and energy into something and if that fails don’t just self pity, get up dust your self off and move ahead because the only way to push your failure aside is to move ahead, not ignore it but to analyse it and learn from it. Always remember you will never truly enjoy success until you have tasted failure and it does taste bad and that’s sheer truth. So remember peeps Fail Fail Again and Rise like a Phoenix.

Time doesn’t heal all wounds – you do

Time doesn’t heal all wounds – you do, and it takes work. Time can help to fade the painful memories by creating distance to them, but the real work …
Time doesn’t heal all wounds – you do

Be Fearless

I am talking about the core of you, who you are inside, your values, your beliefs, your flaws. And once you understand who that person is you would have made taken the first step in finding your unique self and that is the best version of you.

Who am I really? Most often we don’t allow ourselves the ability to dream beyond our imagination, we don’t allow ourselves to think about the future because we are afraid of change. We are afraid to move away what is familiar. Either that or sometimes, you know we are so rigid to let our dreams evolve loosen up.

You know, shake it off a little bit. Change is the only constant thing in life. And you are never too old or never too experience to learn something new, believe that you have everything already as your brahmastra in your will to be able and achieve your dreams. Be Fearless.

Dil Se…

Love People, Love the world around you, Love animals and birds, Love big cities and mountains, Love dreams, Love your friends, Love your enemies, Love your work but most importantly love yourself.

Embrace all that this life has in store for you. Let your heart be as deep as the deepest ocean and as wide as the farthest horizon. Know that it is limitless. Love is not an excuse to grab or to hold on, to own or to barter. It is the only excuse you will ever have to call yourself especial and if someone you love let’s you down, don’t fall yourself for not trusting him or her, fought yourself for not trusting your love enough to forgive his or her trespassers.

You never know what the future will bring, whether there will be a tomorrow or not. Live as hard as you can in this very moment, live now, live today. You will not see it with your youthful eyes, but now as much time as you will ever get, because tomorrow we will all be dead. And just in case there is no cycle of rebirth etc why take a chance.

Lastly, I want to tell everybody that how important your today is. Study hard, work hard, play harder. Don’t be bound by rules, don’t hurt anybody, never grow up and never ever live someone else’s dream. Remember no matter how many times you go wrong, how many times you fail, despair, feel like this world is against you: In the words of Bob Marlin- “At the end everything’s gonna be alright”.

Love

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Be yourself!!!

All the names that you give yourselves or those that others call you are just labels, you are not defined by them no matter how flattering or uncomplimentary they are. What defines you genuinely is your heart.

Redefine yourself if you have to but do it on your own terms and just get on with it. Don’t forget where you came from, please don’t forget who really are. It’s ought to be the compass by which you navigate through life’s institutes, that keeps you oriented despite the series of misfortunes and showers of privilege.

Whatever it is that is pulling you back it’s not going away unless you stand up and start forging your own path with all your might in the opposite direction, stop whining and start moving so to speak. Sadness and happiness are the same qualities of transience, life is a balance exchange of one with the other. Don’t attach yourself to either, they both are going to change with the same certitude, take them with the ephemeral spirit of their impermanence and manage them with the healthy dose of good human, laugh at yourself when you are despairing.

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Let it go….

Give of yourself to others and while you are at it make sure you realise that you aren’t doing anyone any favours by being kind to them, after all the one who gets the most benefit out of any act of charity or kindness will always be you. An act of goodness becomes worthless when you assign the brownie points to yourself, no matter how suttle you allow yourself to do so, as benevolent as your gesture might be, someone else could have made it too, regardless of how rich, successful and famous you become, don’t ever underestimate the grace that other people bestow up on you by being the recipient of your kindnesses

Sometimes things just happen. When life hits you with all the force of its resplendent rage, you are not going to get comfort, a friends grace will, and if you can’t find a resolution as easily as you would like to, don’t panic, everything evolves as you go along, even disasters eventually resolved themselves, give life the pace to move at it’s own space, pushing it ahead only by way of being kind to yourselves when you are hurting or in despair and you will be hurting and depositing a lot in this lifetime.

You don’t always have to figure things out or find an explanation for the circumstances you are in, it’s more prudent to accept that sometimes there isn’t just one.

Love❤️

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Fear

Don’t let your fears become boxes that enclose you, open them out, feel them and turn them into the greatest courage you are capable of, I promise you nothing will go wrong. But, if you live by your fears everything that can possible go wrong will go wrong. All the plannings in the world won’t take you where you want to go and it’s fine not to know what you want to become 20 years from now. Just remember bravery is just another word for being shit scared.

It’s okay to be confused. Confusion is the root to all the clarity in the world. Don’t worry about it too much, don’t ever take yourself seriously enough to be clear of your own ideas that you stop respecting other people’s ideas. Our values are our values, they don’t make us any better than any one else, at best they just just make us different, always try to see other person’s truth because like every movie has a story, every human being has one too, and you have no right to imagine that your’s is better than anyone else’s

That’s my take too over life, hope you agree too

Love and light peeps🌸

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Abnormal is a new Normal

I always thought that I am kinda not normal, my behaviour, attitude and personality is wierd at times but that’s not it. And it goes for everyone, if only you can understand the depth.

Don’t ever treat your little insanities as if they are aberrations that ought to be hidden from the rest of the world, acknowledge them and use them, to define your own way of living. Embrace your own idiosyncrasies. There is no such thing as normal. Normal is just another word for lifeless. Madness of the particularly nice or wierd kind is an absolute prerequisite to a happy and successful life.

It’s fine not to be fine. Don’t try too hard to fit in.

Love💓

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Life Lesson

No matter how bad it gets, life is the miracle you are searching for. There is no other one around the corner, develop the faith in it to let it take its own course, make all the efforts to abide by its beauty, and it will not let you down. Use all the resources you have been given, your mental faculties, the ability of your heart to love and feel for those around you, your health and good fortune, all of the thousands of gifts that life has given you to the maximum potential.

Honour your life please, honour each gift and each moment by not laying it to waste. Remember, there is no real measure of success in this world except the ability to make good of life’s resources to you. Sometimes life’s gift arrives wrapped in all bad damm wrapping at which point we have to learn two things with them, firstly recognise them for what they are and then gamble on our fears that they might be disastrous.

Love

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People….

People all around people. Are they relevant, this is the question we all should ask ourselves. We are always concerned of one thing “Log Kya Kahenge”. There is a saying “Dance as if no one is watching”. This we should apply in all that we do. Whatever you do there would be someone criticising you. There will always be a bunch of people telling you what to do and what not to do, point is what best suits you and most importantly what you want to do. Don’t be bothered as to what others say about you.

It is funny that I am writing this because my whole life I was bothered as to what will people say. “People” has been my biggest worry. But now I have realised that at the end what matters is you and your happiness. It is you, who is the universe. Who are people, where do you find them. I remember an episode from friends where Pheobe tells Rachel “Why do you care so much of People, whom you won’t even see again, whom you meet today”. That is so damm true. If only we are freely doing our thing without hurting anyone else.

This world would be a better place to live if we are happy in ourselves and less concerned what others are gossipping about us. Let them say, they anywhich ways will say even if you are the nicest one on earth. Remember we made this so called “Society” not they made us. At the end I would like to summ up by the famous hindi movie song “Kuch to log kahenge, logo ka kaam hai kehna, chodo bekar ki baaton mein kahin beet na jaye raina”.

Love

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Sir… Is Love Enough?

Recently I watched the 2018 movie on Netflix. This I am not writing as a movie critic as I am not a Critic. What I want to narrate here is the beauty of the film and the message it wanted to convey. Usually we all say that what happens in a movie does not happen in reall, may be true. However, what I saw in the movie is the taboo in our society.

Ratna, the maid is taking care of her master Ashwin who is kind of dejected after being cheated on by his fiancee and his marriage is called off. Point here is if he is feeling for his maid, what is wrong in it. It’s not that he only wants to sleep with her. Ratna also leaves him saying that society will not approve of their relation. But my point here is why? Why can’t a maid – a servant per say have a relationship with her owner. Why our society can’t accept the fact that two individuals living under same roof can develop feelings for each other. At the end what do we want, a person who understands our needs, emotional turbulences and advise us if we are low in life. Marrying a maid is a hush hush thing over here why?

We need to be more vocal and accepting towards it. At the end what matters is happiness. Life is too short to live with guilt and regrets. Find a person who really understands you. Marriage is just a name given to an alliance between two indiviuals in our society. Think above it, that is mutual love, respect and care that we find in one another. Being a maid is just a job like any other educated one. I am happy with the ending though where Ratna calls her sir by his name Ashwin when he calls her on her number.

I dont want to say much, because we are far away from that point still. But there is always hope.

Stay positive and keep loving.

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Sharing is not caring anymore!

We have grown up hearing this phrase “Sharing is caring”, in schools we use to hear this while on picnics to share our tiffin, and later it became sharing of thoughts. But as the time is changing it seems sharing is actually not caring anymore. When you share your emotional turbulences with people or most precisely your friends, they tend to use it against you or may be later trying to tell you how negative you are and how great they are to still be with you inspite of your reckless behaviour.

It is really sad and then it is termed as you being a difficult person. I don’t know whether I am depressed or not but whatever I have shared with my friends all these years have come infront of me in a very distasteful manner. I had a close friend whom I thought of being transparent infront of her as I thought I can be myself but one day on being asked about my personality, she replied that you have hell lot of emotional issues etc etc, all what I shared being troubled, was presented in a way that I am too emotional and disturbed soul who is difficult to please. Then one of my cousin said that I spoke to you because you are very lonely and no one to talk to, I have many friends you have none, making me realise that I am someone to be felt pity for and then recently one of my actor friend also said that I supported you when everyone else left you, irrespective of me being a celebrity so on and so forth.

All this makes me wonder, was all this worthy for.I shared things out of emotions, being vulnerable and what you all did, made me feel like a loser, someone who should be pittied at, someone who is not wanted, not accepted and you are doing favour at her. So now I think it was rather good if I wouldn’t have opened up about myself at all. Then why all these big big seminars do sweet talks such as share yourself and talk your heart out, when you do so you are later on mocked.

I don’t feel angry on those who came in my life just feel sad for me that I was thinking that people lisitening to me are really my friends and my emotions are worth for giving a ear.

Have a nice day with happy thoughts and genuine people around❤️