expectations – Tripts

New Bride…

I am not married and may be I won’t so may be I should not be the one writing about it. But, hey all you people reading it let’s assume it’s my opinion, may be insane thoughts so let’s just read it for fun. All what I am going to share here are my sheer observations as I already said I am not married.

Whenever a girl marries and comes to a new place do we really for one second thinks what kind of anxiety she must have gone through while leaving her own house and going to some strange place to live the rest of her life. Love or Arrange it does not matter the place will still be strange for that girl in the beginning. So, why is it that the expectations are set for the girl only.

Like she should be polite, she should behave, she should adhere to family values, in short she should be a real nice person and she is not allowed for a single second of bad temper, bad day or having mood swings, why because she is the “Ideal One” or “Adarsh Bahu” as they say. You start having problems with her but do you try to understand her for once. May be even she is feeling it hard to adjust in the new environment. Do we make her feel wanted and accepted.

We are immediately the judgemental ones. It is we who will decide how she should behave, and the most hypocritical thing that I see is you don’t seem anything wrong when your own daughter wears jeans but if your “Bahu” does it she is lacking “Sanskar”, this is just one example I quoted. Why I said this was when you yourself does not treat her like your own daughter why do you then expect her to treat you all like her parents.

I don’t approve such mindset as an individual. I don’t see a point in blaming your daughter in law always and talking ill about her when you have not once embraced her with genuineness. Well not everyone is like that, someone’s are really lucky enough to have parents in their in laws. Well I would only sum up here by saying that give your daughter in law all the love in world and see the magic.

Love and light to all

Tripts…

Social Media Ideals

I know the title seems too wierd. What I meant here is that people posts too idealistic quotes on social media, but do they really mean it. No, trust me I know such people, infact public figures who posts too idealistic quotes like being positive, genuine soul etc etc but in reality they are exact opposite to it.

I never post such things on social media because our mind works in mysterious manner. Today we are positive, tomorrow we can be negative and the other day might get involve in immoral activities, we cannot predict our personality, it keep on changing. First of all develop humanity. Be kind to everyone. We all lack this virtue including me. I don’t think I am a genuine soul, if for once you became jealous of someone, made fun of someone’s appearance or spoke ill about someone then you are human not genuine. And that is why giving motivational gyan on social media is far from being true. They post to gain followers, more and more likes. I have worked in media industry and know many such people who are completely different off screen. And that’s not wrong but why to be saints on social media. Be who you are. I don’t feel ashamed saying that I am fake at times, negative and jealous being. Because I am human. One should be kind from inside and then they won’t have to give gyan to others and they will automatically have millions of followers.

Love

Tripts❤️

The Intern

When I started working in Mumbai in T.V industry, I used to be embarrassed quite a while because everyone out there were so young to me, even my creative directors and I was working as their juniors, all because I started too late.

But then one day while net surfing I came across this wonderful movie that changed my mindset all together. Well, even if you are working with your younger ones as your seniors, there is no need to be embarrassed if you are dedicated, hardworking, focused and most important wearing a smile whole time at work.

At the end how does it matter what age you are till the time you know your job and love your job and even if people sometime talk about you or seem surprised for your age, that’s okay. You be confident because at the end confidence is what matters and trust me slowly people will love you.

Love

Tripts…

My Name Is Khan!

This movie is one of my favourite and I can watch it umpteen no of times. No, not because of SRK or Karan Johar. It is my favourite due to the fact I always believed and it was portrayed in the movie. Back in 2010 when this movie was released, I watched in theatre and I cried, I cried a lot. Not because I got emotional, yes ofcourse this movie was emotional but I cried out of happiness. Simply because I was happy finally someone said what I was saying whole of these years and people were arguing with me. No one agreed with me.

The point I am trying to make here is that why we bracket Muslims. Not all Muslims are terrorists, not all Muslims are bad. Yes I do agree that they are rigid religiously. If hypothetically we believe also that all Muslims are very cynical then too what you all do, outcast them, demean them, look down upon them. They have certain ways of thinking and worshiping. They behave differently but that’s okay. If you say that they don’t pray our God or enter our temples, that’s okay, but you don’t stop going to mosques. Why you have to start comparisans.

When I was doing graduation, I still remember I have a very good friend and batchmate Iftikhar with me who use to walk with me till my hostel gate every day. The dean of my university was Brahmin like me. Once the guards caught us thinking us to be couple took our I.d cards, not to miss our exams were near. The guard saw our I.d cards, looking at my name Tripathi and his name being Khan, they gave back my card and kept his, we both pleaded but he yelled and asked us to leave. He paid the price for dropping me hostel safely though we were never in love. I genuinely felt bad for him and I never saw him again after that day.

This is just one incident that happened with me, there are no of such incidents that happen with people every now and then especially when they travel abroad. Why???? Muslims are people just like us. I have read Quran and it also teaches what other religious pictures teaches us. No difference at all. Yes I agree terrorism mostly has Muslims but does that mean we should start hating overall Muslims. No!!!

Infact when Pulwama Attack happened in Feb 2019, it is so ironic that what Mr. Navjot Singh Sidhu said for which he was condemned a lot I said exactly the same a day before that, even if the attack has been done by Pakistan, to blame entire Pakistan people is wrong.

I know many people will hate me for writing this, may be they will also call me anti Indian but all I am saying is humanity is above all and using terms for Muslims like “Mullah” “Katua” etc is derogatory. Not acceptable at all. Treat Muslims with equality and pride. They are human too like us. No need to look them down upon. Yes and I do believe that not all of them are terrorists.

Love, Peace and Humanity.

Tripts.

Love…

Recently I was re watching “Nishabd”. Back in 2007 when the movie released, I was also critical of Mr.Bachchan and the movie as well. However, today I think Love is love, it does not understand any barriers, be it age, religion, caste, creed, community or even gender. There is nothing legal or moral when it comes to Love. May be that’s why it is said “Everything is fair in love”.

So what if a 70 year old man fell in love with a 20 year old girl. Even if he is married and has a 20 year old daughter. Love is a feeling, it is a beautiful emotion. When it overpowers you, it does not see anything else but only your heart. Even if you are married for 30 years, there is a possibility that your heart might beat for someone you just meet. But why is it difficult for society to accept that Love is Love beyond anyone’s restrictions and expectations.

You feel for someone strongly and express it. Why you have to criticise or abandon him or her. Your heart and soul belongs to an individual per say, no one else should have a say in it. Love should be treated with love and not with hatred and judgements. When I watched the movie, I couldn’t understand why the wife and daughter had to abandon him filled with hatred and disgust. He liked being in someone’s company. It made him happy, it should not be termed as cheating on his wife.

It is strange to see people being so judgemental about it. Guys, always be supportive of Love, irrespective of how and which form it is coming. Everyone has the right to feel it. Though I as an individual has always experienced pain in it still I would say that it is a beautiful emotion and I completely believe and support it’s sanctity.

So feel love, believe in love and embrace love.

Love

Tripts…

Sharing is not caring anymore!

We have grown up hearing this phrase “Sharing is caring”, in schools we use to hear this while on picnics to share our tiffin, and later it became sharing of thoughts. But as the time is changing it seems sharing is actually not caring anymore. When you share your emotional turbulences with people or most precisely your friends, they tend to use it against you or may be later trying to tell you how negative you are and how great they are to still be with you inspite of your reckless behaviour.

It is really sad and then it is termed as you being a difficult person. I don’t know whether I am depressed or not but whatever I have shared with my friends all these years have come infront of me in a very distasteful manner. I had a close friend whom I thought of being transparent infront of her as I thought I can be myself but one day on being asked about my personality, she replied that you have hell lot of emotional issues etc etc, all what I shared being troubled, was presented in a way that I am too emotional and disturbed soul who is difficult to please. Then one of my cousin said that I spoke to you because you are very lonely and no one to talk to, I have many friends you have none, making me realise that I am someone to be felt pity for and then recently one of my actor friend also said that I supported you when everyone else left you, irrespective of me being a celebrity so on and so forth.

All this makes me wonder, was all this worthy for.I shared things out of emotions, being vulnerable and what you all did, made me feel like a loser, someone who should be pittied at, someone who is not wanted, not accepted and you are doing favour at her. So now I think it was rather good if I wouldn’t have opened up about myself at all. Then why all these big big seminars do sweet talks such as share yourself and talk your heart out, when you do so you are later on mocked.

I don’t feel angry on those who came in my life just feel sad for me that I was thinking that people lisitening to me are really my friends and my emotions are worth for giving a ear.

Have a nice day with happy thoughts and genuine people around❤️

Trust

Let’s begin with what is Trust. It is a belief that someone is good, honest and sincere. Why I chose to write on this topic is because I have been a victim of trust since long. I trust people easily and that has been my biggest problem. I am not a shrewd, street smart person who can use opportunity to her benefit. No offence to anyone but may be the world functions this way and I am a misfit in here. And specially after SSR death case I have lost respect for everyone. Infact I use to be Arnab’s fan but recently with the chain of events I saw that everyone is settling their scores no one is genuine, no one is wanting to give justice to Sushant they are just working to satisfy their political vendetta. So I was least bothered when he was arrested all I cared was that a genuine soul is no more between us. This is a brutal world we are living in.

So coming back to trust, when someone mails me “Tripti I will always be at your side” or they message me “You are my soul sister, I Love you” I start trusting these people that I have genuine friends but the fact is these words are just words which ideally people don’t intend to follow in their actions. I have started writing blogs since last 1 year when I was in USA and was diagnosed with depression and so I started writing those things that bother me instead of telling that person as a part of my therapy. It somehow relieves me because I am a kind of person who cannot fight.

You know I can’t be fake and am not fake at all. These blogs are my way of venting out my frustration and depression.

Last but not the least remember this in life “Breaking someone’s trust is like crumpling up a perfect piece of paper, you can smooth it over but it’s never gonna be same again.

Love and Light.

Why being judgemental ???

Being judgemental is the biggest disease of our country. I believe almost everyone here is judgemental, you will rarely find a “Species” who is not judgemental and who takes people and situations the way it is. I am also not away of this disease however have made lot of improvement in this area and hence am able to write a blog on this. Earlier I use to be hell lot of judgemental about everyone, but as they say na Karma is above all, I was hit so hard by Karma that I understood the effect it has on others so now I have stopped being judgmental though I am judged a lot.

So what if someone is not married at the age of 40, so what if someone is still virgin at the age of 40, so what if someone does not have interest in politics or is not updated of current affairs, so what if someone is not having babies after being married for 10 years, so what if someone is having only girl children and no boys, so what if someone at the age of 40 behaves kiddish and do not show signs of maturity, so what if someone only have boys as friends and no girlfriends, so what if being a girl someone loves to smoke and drink and party, so what if someone likes to sit in the room when the party is going out and so the list goes on.

At the end we all are humans. We can have different lifestyles, different choices and different mindset which gives us happiness, who gives you authority to judge that person. Does that person harm you in any way. There are some people who are really strong headed who give a damm what people say or think about them. Good!!! But there are some people, those the weaker section of society who do gets impacted with people’s way of judgements about them. First of all you all should know that there are other things going on someone else’s life which you are not aware of so your words or actions might add up to that misery they are facing. And even if everything is cool why not leave them alone.

Like I can give example of my own family without naming the very close member of my family always judges me by the kind of posts I put on social media, or my being filmy or the set of friends I have especially boys. Sometimes I do get embarrassed by that look in her eyes. Those look are really sarcastic. I feel low, embarrassed in my own self. My point here is if you are doing something does that mean I should do the same to fit in the intellectual circuit. Why, why can’t one be him or herself without being judged. It is very easy to give someone Gyan but it is difficult to follow that yourself.

Stop judging people, welcome them with open arms and a smile on your face. It would make a difference and then this world would be even more beautiful place to live in. And please for heaven sake stop saying “Log kya kahenge” Log waise bhi kahenge, aap kuch bhi kar lein. So do what your heart truly believes in, our society is such that it will never stop judging you because it’s their birth right, they were born with this power to belittle others and question them on every single thing they do.

Well, still we shouldn’t leave a ray of hope in us.

Keep loving and spreading positivity😇

Tripts

Compassion

Word is enough to describe its whole identity in the world. In todays’s age what we are lacking is compassion towards others. I am not going out, if you look in your own family, your own family will not be compassionate towards you. It is very easy for people to turn their back and say that your behaviour is not nice and we are finding difficult to adjust with you. But they will never try to understand what a weak mind is thinking and why it is behaving in a reckless manner.

There is absolutely no justification for ill mannerisms and misbehaviour but there is certainly a reason behind it. If you see someone not behaving normal, do you cut off and zoned out with that person or try to understand if you can help that person, or to make them understand in the harsh manner possible do something which can leave permanent scar on their fragile mind. I know what ever I am scribbing here right now is not making sense to anyone here reading this but I can say if only people will feel how bad a person might feel due to their actions, there would be less suffering and pain in this world. Problem is that in today’s time people do not feel other people’s pain and they don’t think once before acting that their behaviour might cause immense pain to their loved ones. And I am amazed to see that once someone really close to your heart can crush your heart with equal ease and do not regret later.

Am I the only one who thinks about others, who feels others pain. It pains me somewhere to see that your pain and suffering becomes someone else’s enjoyment. Can we all not develop little bit of compassion towards each other. Are we really human because when god created a line of differentiation between animal and human he kept certain qualities only for human and Compassion is one of them. But all of us is loosing the love, respect and compassion for each other and going self centred a lot.

Love and only Love

Tripts

Married? NO!!! Why??

Hmmm, big question🤪 Tough one to answer! More than an IAS question I guess. Since long I wanted to write something on this, however whenever I thought of writing I fall short of words. But today I thought of just scribbing whatever is there in my mind without thinking if my grammar is proper or my vocabulary is fabulous.

Marriage? What is marriage??? If we go by meaning it would be like something “A sacred institution where two souls compatible to each other meet” Blah Blah Blah… But in reality marriage is something that just happens when two individuals meet, and are destined to mingle into one entity. But what if there is someone who is 25 plus and not married. Now, is that a shameful act? Or is the filth and negativity in my head? I am a single individual, my friends of my age are married and some are even having kids. Now, the reasons could be many. Not necessarily depressive ones or may be. You can’t say! But my point is why this one is so relevant a question to ask a single individual, the most important one. Off lately I came across some of my old friends with whom I was not in touch since quite a long time, and guess what the first question they asked me “Hey, are you married? No, Why? To begin with, yes they all are happily married and well settled in life.

To answer let me first begin with a happy smile that NO there is no sad story but sometimes things just don’t happen. I do not have one perfect answer as to why I am still single. May be I was not suppose to marry, may be I am not the right individual that any guy would like to settle with, may be I have adjustment issues or may be it still is not the right time… May be, May be, May be… No answer! Now tell me if you meet me at some point in life and find me still single what answer should I give you.

Earlier I was not upset of not getting married. I was a strong individual but now I am getting weak, my friends who ask me why aren’t am married don’t fail to amaze me by even giving me advice to get married as it is the only BIG necessity in life. Sometimes I feel like hiding somewhere where no one knows me, but I know that is also not an option. If I was some big personality having crores in my account, may be still then some people atleast would shut themselves if not all because then I would be having loads of money to take care of and most importantly enough to shut people, but I don’t even have that much money. No am not feeling sorry for myself because not getting married was my personal choice, but looking at societal mindset I do feel sorry for my parents because even though they don’t say anything but I do know somewhere they wanted deep in their hearts how good it would be if their daughter was married like other’s.

Sometimes I wonder where is people’s compassion towards others. If I see someone not married or not having a baby, I do not ask this question because somewhere I know it would pinch them deep down, if not all may be some. But why they do not think before asking especially if they are married that their question might hurt the person the question is being directed to. People should definitely have COMPASSION towards their fellow beings, may be they generically ask and do not intend to hurt anyone but if at the age of 40 someone is not married there might be some reason which they might not want to answer and might feel embarrassed to even address this question. And then it becomes socially awkward for such people to come in public and embrace their own selves be their own true original self. And how funny it is that then you only ask “What happened, you are not you anymore”.

I know nothing will change, this will keep on going and it’s okay people of our parents age won’t change, there is whole generation which we need to cover so we can ignore but what for the people of our age, can’t they develop “Understanding”, “Love” and “Respect” for the people of their own age group. Why can’t you be accepting? This is one question that all of us needs to ask ourselves and then we might expect some positive change in society in coming times.

And remember as someone rightly said once “Singleness is not a sickness, a sin, or a problem. Single people are not broken and they do not need to be fixed”. Stop feeling pity for them and be happy with them and enjoy with them like you use to once when you were friends when you were young 😘

Am I right OR I am right😂🌸❤️

Tripts!!!

Me too or Tool to smash all “Men”

For many it seems very insensitive for a female to say this, but let’s really understand what it is all about. This word first came in light in 2006 by the social activist Tarana Burke where a little girl confided in her about her molestation and she later regretted that she should have said Me too which means if someone talks about her child abuse or any kind of sexual assault, to make her feel comfortable you can simply utter Me too that is that don’t worry I also have faced similar situation in life and you are not alone. That is it but it has been taken to some other level to satisfy ones own vendetta. Sad but true.

Personally, I do not believe in Mee too movement. I am not saying that all those coming forward has not suffered any such incident in their lives. They may have gone through such trauma, but there are some women who try to milk the situation. Isn’t it sad, we try to take opportunity of being a women. Trust me whenever these incidents happened with the so called “Victims” they had chance to go to police and unmask the culprits but they rather chose to keep quiet and open up after few years. Or let say they couldn’t go due to some x,y,z reason but now what is the point of coming forward after years and doing social media trials, and even if after so many years you think of opening up then also they will not go to police but what will prefer writing on social platforms. Major question is WHY??? How will it benefit you. Someone sexually assaulted you then why not taking police help to punish them. By coming on social media you just want to take revenge, that is crystal clear, you have no agenda in mind to get them punished. Then it becomes a reason to satisfy your personal motives.

Like for example in Vinta Nanda case, she herself has stated in her interview which could be verified as it is in public domain that when Alok Nath harassed her she kept quiet because she herself was struggling and wanted to make her mark in the industry so that means women also agrees to certain level for their personal gains, this is just one example I quoted there are many such cases, but my only point is that stop maligning Men out there. Women today are not weak. Stop presenting yourselves to be vulnerable. If you have been molested please speak up at the right time and do not wait for 3 to 4 years because that ways even if there are some genuine ones they will fade. I hope am making some sense to some people atleast. Being a women I strongly condemn this movement called #MeToo!!!

Love

Tripts❤️

Bollywood – An Opium For Masses

Off lately I have been following up Sushant Singh Rajput’s case a lot. There had been lot many high profile cases in the past but nothing really affected me, may be because I knew this is a brutal world and whether we like it or not we all are a part of it. So there was a sense of acceptance “Sab chalta hai, yahan aisa hi hota hai”. However, with SSR case I got deeply involved whether intentionally or unintentionally. Every day watching news and going in deep analysis about how things unfolded made me wonder what circus is this. And now this incident has become an integral part of my life till the time I am alive. And I must confess that I have been deeply impacted with the death of this person we lovingly call Sushi.

I have been an avid follower and ardent fan of Bollywood, ever since I was born. Infact as a child I wanted to be an actress. I also use to dislike when my brother commented on actresses that they do all sort of shitty stuff to get into films as he never approved the glamour industry as a profession. I use to fight that how can you say such thing, they must have worked really hard. I even use to read all film magazines like Stardust, Filmfare, Cineblitz etc.etc. more than the books in my course. Films use to run in my blood. Infact my brother use to joke if you need any information like who is dating whom ask Tripti she is film encyclopaedia. So much I loved movies.

However, things have taken a drastic turn for me. And I have never in my life imagined that my perception for film industry will ever change or I would get influenced so much that I would start hating it to the core. And this is completely my opinion, I do not want to get into any debate or influence anyone with my thoughts. I will still not say that Film Indstry is bad and nepotistic because that every industry is. You will have to learn to survive. But what is making me sad and depressed day by day is the hypocrisy and self centerdness of people all over in this industry.

A person dies and you stay quiet. When the death of Sushant happened all of you actors out there posted condolence messages all over the social sites, but no one bothered to meet his family or attend his funeral. Alright for this I would give you all benefit of doubt for the pandemic going on. But, not a word for the actor. What is the point of making movies on social causes and also speaking up on various platforms about mental health and giving motivational speeches. All that was fake and I was unnecessarily getting impressed by these people, so called “Heroes” and “Heroines”.

It pains me to know that a person was really cornered when he was alive. Now, people can say, it’s just media that is portraying Bollywood in bad light, don’t trust them. But it’s not just media, I have seen his interviews, posts on social media, it reflected his state of mind. And moreover it was evident, that he was disliked or cornered, only he could have answered why but unfortunately he is gone. I am not going as per word of mouth but I have done my own detailed analysis by watching his no. of interviews, videos and conclusion that I drew was that he was a simpleton, naive guy who tried to may be put a street smart face on him which he wasn’t, he didn’t knew how to manipulate, or be in good books. Maintain terms socially or select wise people for him. He was highly emotional and wanted everyone’s validation. He wanted that everyone should like him, praise him, people shouldn’t say bad about him, he use to get affected by people a lot. That was his biggest problem and may be that was one of the reasons that took his life. I will not get into debate whether he was murdered or he committed suicide, because we don’t know and will never know what really happened on fateful 14th afternoon. And I am pretty sure the case would be closed in a month or two without any conclusion and people will move on with their lives, the same people who are shouting justice for Sushant and Boycott Bollywood.

Fact is no one really cares how you feel, humanity is dead. Big powerful people are involved, everyone knows but still nothing will happen. Bollywood is keeping quiet, why, he was also a talented actor, one amongst you and still you don’t feel a thing for him. You don’t raise questions, Why??? Mahesh Bhatt talks like a big gyan guru in various interviews but his words does not match his actions. My favourite Amitabh Bachchan talks a lot about the teachings his “Babuji” gave him but mum on SSR death, Deepika Padukone still post about depression and how to overcome but not a word on how this young guy who is dead now must have felt when he was alive. My all time fav, my hero, Amir Khan doesn’t care, he will make shows like “Satyamev Jayte” but when the time is for real Satya there is no Satya from him at all. And most importantly King Khan who has always impressed me not because of his acting but his motivational speeches and inspiring stories in various colleges, he will post just condolence message on his demise and that’s it. And the list goes on.

It makes me really pathetic how everyone in Bollywood is silent and don’t want to comment. Forget about death, when he was alive that time also they were least bothered. It makes me wonder what world are we living in where someone else’s misery does not shake us. Everytime I see his video or movie or news on T.V, tears roll down automatically, even if I don’t want to cry. I simply want to put myself off from this industry. Yes ofcourse I would like to confess here that I am a media person so for my livelyhood I might be connected to this industry somehow but that would be strictly professional now and no emotions attached, yes that’s wierd that a person like me is saying this who is overtly emotional. But the truth now is, their misery will not move me because now I know they all are fake, meaningless individual. Their existence is a shame to humanity.

I hereby makes a promise to myself no more Bollywood. No movies, award shows, T.V shows etc. etc. I know I am a petite creature on this planet so no one really cares and I am not doing this to bring any change because the fact is nothing will change ever. So, I can do my bit. I cannot fake anymore. Miss you Sushant, you are at a happy place now. This world does not deserve you.

Folks be nice and wise to all!!!

Please don’t let humanity die in us…

Love and only Love.

Tripts ❤️