embrace – Tripts

Monster in Brain

It’s been long time since I have written anything and this also I am doing on the regular insistence of one of my fan, well just kidding he is a dear friend. And usually on request people generally come up with something peppy and positive but the kind of state I am in I do not think I would be able to come up to motivate someone. In fact writing something is also taking lot of efforts still I will try. And for few of you who would be reading for a change I wouldn’t be naming anyone so you all can relax 😅

Well, so I have written a lot about mental health and there is nothing new I will write but I will try to give you peep into someone’s mind especially the one who is battling depression. Well, to start with in today’s world of social media people talk a lot about mental health, it’s like it gives you brownie points to be sensible, mateured and intellectual, however ironically it’s not the case. Because you might seem to be someone who know a lot about mental health and encourage depressive people to seek medication which in reality is not the case.

Well I am not against psychiatric treatment and medication, in fact I do believe in it. But it is so funny the people close to you will make you believe that you are suffering from some mental health issue and should seek treatment but the same people lack compassion, empathy and sympathy for you. I have always spoken about the incidents I have faced in life hence I talk on facts and not imaginations. Well what are those incidents I’ll talk in another blog as I already said that I wouldn’t name shame anyone.

So, these days I am not in correct mindset. My mind is tired because it is working round the clock then my body should have. Overthinking is still okay but my mind has a monster sitting in my mind which constantly sends red flag to me the moment I fell asleep which rarely happens that wake up you have to kill yourself and as soon as I wake up there is a peculiar pain in my chest and my mind is not allowing anything positive to come in, it just tells me this world is not for you. You don’t belong here, common let’s get up and leave forever. If I do not leave my bed I gets even more trapped in captivity of my monsterous mind.

This is not the story of only one me but thousands of those suffering from mental health issue, and trust me it gives you a feeling that you are completely alone though you might be having 1000 of friends. Well it is really easy to judge such people and motivate them but more than that you have to be with them, you don’t have to make them believe anything just stay with them constantly irrespective of their non sensical approach to life. I am sure 99.9 percent people do exact opposite of this. I am talking from my own experience. Many of my closed ones and friends even family have left me because I am really difficult to live with. You know this makes a person even more sick.

Trust me it is only you and your love can cure a person with loads of sadness inside, not some professional, that comes at later stage, you have given up at first only on your loved one. So here I leave you with the thought, yes the person is having mental health issue, yes the person is difficult, yes the person is not lisitening but is it okay to maintain distance with them, till yesterday when they were fun loving, entertaining and fun to be around you all loved her company, today when you find her bit abnormal, you no longer want to be around. Think about it can happen to anyone, will you like such behaviour if they were you.

All said and done I am with them who think they are lonely. If you want you can drop a comment, I won’t leave your hand❤️

Stay happy, stay healthy and keep going

Lots of love

Tripts

New Bride…

I am not married and may be I won’t so may be I should not be the one writing about it. But, hey all you people reading it let’s assume it’s my opinion, may be insane thoughts so let’s just read it for fun. All what I am going to share here are my sheer observations as I already said I am not married.

Whenever a girl marries and comes to a new place do we really for one second thinks what kind of anxiety she must have gone through while leaving her own house and going to some strange place to live the rest of her life. Love or Arrange it does not matter the place will still be strange for that girl in the beginning. So, why is it that the expectations are set for the girl only.

Like she should be polite, she should behave, she should adhere to family values, in short she should be a real nice person and she is not allowed for a single second of bad temper, bad day or having mood swings, why because she is the “Ideal One” or “Adarsh Bahu” as they say. You start having problems with her but do you try to understand her for once. May be even she is feeling it hard to adjust in the new environment. Do we make her feel wanted and accepted.

We are immediately the judgemental ones. It is we who will decide how she should behave, and the most hypocritical thing that I see is you don’t seem anything wrong when your own daughter wears jeans but if your “Bahu” does it she is lacking “Sanskar”, this is just one example I quoted. Why I said this was when you yourself does not treat her like your own daughter why do you then expect her to treat you all like her parents.

I don’t approve such mindset as an individual. I don’t see a point in blaming your daughter in law always and talking ill about her when you have not once embraced her with genuineness. Well not everyone is like that, someone’s are really lucky enough to have parents in their in laws. Well I would only sum up here by saying that give your daughter in law all the love in world and see the magic.

Love and light to all

Tripts…

Divorce… A stigma

Every now and then we hear someone or the other getting divorced. And the amazing part is we at once judges one of the individual in the circus of life called “Divorce”. No, really that’s the bitter truth and I am no less.

Recently, there is one incident that shook me mentally. 4 months back I was living in a p.g with 2 girls one of whom was divorced at the early age of her life. And as soon as I shifted there she opened up about the painful chapter of her life. Now the interesting part is she was exactly like me, same mood swings, same attitude, same temparents overall same individuals and as you all know that opposites attract so we couldn’t gel for long and eventually had a major fallout due to which I left that p.g but one thing that I didn’t mentioned here was that during our verbal spat I told her in anger “Because of this attitude of yours, you got divorced”, which is a very wrong thing to say though I immidiately apologised to her but she never forgave me though I tried a lot in my way to say sorry but she just didn’t wanted to see my face. And I believe she was right in her own space.

Though there is one thing that I never told her because that might create rift among 2 best friends. Her own friend who was the 3rd girl among us 3 days before that spat mentioned this to me in general conversation and due to which I used this line in our fight as it was in my mind. Though many times I felt like telling her friend who was really nice to me that no matter how worse she is you cannot be talking about her in a negative sense to anyone specially a third person who is an outsider in your life like me but I never said because no one likes to lisiten negative about themselves, this I have learnt from my past experiences so I refrain giving any kind of gyan to anyone.

However, point over here is not who is wrong and who is right and who said what, point is who gave us the right to judge an individual who has suffered that dark chapter in his or her life. We were not there when they were having their ups and downs. We were not living their journeys. We do not know what went wrong.

Always remember whenever Divorce happens it is the responsibility of both the individuals involved. We cannot and should not blame any one person. It might be a possibility that the person might have tried a lot to save her or his marriage but eventually things couldn’t work for them. So in this case if a person ever tells you about his or her divorce story just give them a tight hug and say “You are stronger than this, this shall too pass”. Never judge them and please never ever think that it is their fault that they got divorced. May be god has better plans for them. I wish each one of them who ever has to go through this pain be strong and have a wonderful life ahead and lastly “To that special someone who once started with me as a strong friendship a big “SORRY” and I mean it.”

Lots of love to all

Tripts

Negativity it is ???

You all are aware of this “term”, no one wants to come across as a negative person. Even if the person is, he will always claim to be a positive person. Because being negative as per them is clingeworthy. But do you know infact I think everyone knows that 2 negatives make 1 positive. I know I know how cliche 😂

I am in general a negative person and I have no shame in accepting it. Infact there is a very interesting story to it, way back in 2007 I won a small beauty contest in my then Delhi office where I was asked a question what would you want people to think about you and I very calmly said “I would want people to think that I am highly positive person which I am NOT, and amazingly I won with this answer.

I would like to say that there is nothing wrong in being negative because they are the ones who will tell you the most amount of truth, Tell me those who claim to be positive people are they really positive. Talking about people behind their back is negativity, taking dig at other one’s appearance and personality is negativity and above all putting some one down by showing oneself superior is also negativity. Then where is positivity. Whereas I think talking truth and accepting situations and things around you is positivity. If a person himself says that I am a negative person is in itself being honest which in other words is being positive.

What I meant to say in this blog is if you really are a positive person think about other’s in positive way. Be true to yourself and if someone is wrong instead of putting the person down think about the situation he is in and shower love on that person than in real sense will make you a positive person.

I am proud of being a Negative person.

No shame at all. Mock me as much as you can!

Love and Light to all

Compassionate Lisitening

Before we talk about comapassionate lisitening, let us understand what is compassion, in simple words it means understanding. Hence, compassionate listening is understanding the suffering without any judgements or advices. Be the person with whom someone in stress can share his or her ordeals and fights related to life also may be with all the wrong perceptions and ideas about situations and people around them. They don’t need to be corrected at the time when they are coming to you in hope of some relief.

When a person is in stress all he/she needs is someone who will lisiten without any judgements, even if they are completely wrong. Be the bin where they can just dump all the garbage inside them. What most of us do is we try to tell them how they have turned situation against them, how they have messed up everything and what they need to do to correct everything in life. No, they don’t need your advice at that point in life when they themselves are suffering a lot inside. Just lisiten to them what they have to say and your reaction should be silently “Everything will be allright” look.

People talk a lot about mental health and how one should be helped to deal with stress and depression and anxiety, but do they really do something about it when it comes to them in person. I have gone through this personally when I have been advised how I should change myself when I am telling that what I have done was wrong and admitting to it. And its not about individual experience if someone talks to me opening up and also telling me that they have done nothing wrong where at the back of the mind I know that’s not right, but I do not correct them because I know emptying themselves will lighten their hearts and eventually people do realise what was their mistake and what they have done was wrong. You do not have to be their teacher at the time of stress.

If you can be a dumping bag for them, it will really help them and they will not find themselves all alone in this fight called “LIFE”. Be the one, Be the Compassionate Listeners.

Have a happy day!

Love and Light

Tripts ❤️

Depression

I have earlier written about this however deleted it later on as I realised that I was not being natural and writing what I have been told or heard or may be read, but today after lot of realisations and sufferings I have been able to depict it more powerfully and naturally and again these are just my observations and realisations, the reality may differ from individual to individual.

Till today I really do not understand what actually depression means. I even don’t know if I actually suffer from depression or not but yes I certainly observes sadness in me from time to time and it has been years since I have been feeling this way. I could never feel happy from within. I am liked by people at first instance when they meet me because they find me vivacious, entertaining and funny but they hardly know that this is the personality I am showing them and it is not my real self, it is my desperate attempt to be loved and accepted, and it satisfies me when people are pleased with me because there is somehow lot of sadness in me that constantly tries to convince me that I will end alone and that is also the reason that I do not say NO to people on lot many instances when I should have said No, just so that they all should like me and be with me always but opposite happens.

However, this is not my concern, my concern here is that people talk a lot about mental illness and how one should help an individual suffering but do they really care. The answer is no. No counselling, medication and psychiatrist can help an individual if the person is lonely at heart and those to whom they turn in hope turns their back or refuse to understand their dilemma. I could never be happy being with people around and then I was told, “No matter how mush we do for you, its never enough”, they fail to understand that may be I want to but I just can’t. Like I will quote an example here, in 2019 I was in USA at my brother’s place for vacation. He use to take me out on social gatherings with his friends in USA, but i use to sit alone while my brother and his wife have fun, chit-chat. And later at home my brother once yelled “We do all this to keep you happy and in return what you do, sit alone”. I was heartbroken but couldn’t make bhaiya understand, what goes in me I want to enjoy but just can’t. This took me back in the days when I was living with awesome flatmates in Mumbai, they planned a surprise party on my birthday however I told them few days earlier that please do not organise anything for me because I knew I won’t be happy. But they did, their intentions were obviously nice but i just sat in my room and at the end they stopped talking to me and later yelled that “If this is your nature no one will ever like you”. I was quiet. All the insults, humiliation is fresh in me.

My question here to everyone here is that have you all really tried to understand what a person’s heart is feeling, why the person feels lonely amidst the hell lot of people. Then why to humiliate the person, when they themselves do not understand why they are experiencing this pain. They want to be happy but can’t. Sometimes, you have to just keep patience with them. It is not an easy task, but if you can’t do that then do not tell them, you need therapy.Their best therapy would be your love, family’s support. Sometimes’s they just need someone to listen to them without any judgement and advice. Depression is something which makes the person suffer without any reason. Your kindness can heal them miraculously.

Try to understand them and be polite. You are their Councillor, not some person who is paid to hear them. Only your love and support can cure them.

Love and Light

Tripts

A Gentle Soul Remembering SSR

A Gentle Soul Remembering SSR

Irrfan Khan – A Gem

What does it mean, Irfan means “Knowledge” “Awareness” and “Learning”. And it is so amazing that this legend perfectly suited his name and glorified its meaning.

I have never been an artist crazy person but this is one such person who has left a deep impact on me not only as an artist but also as a human being. One should learn from him how to be a human being first, rest all other things will fall in place. There are so many things about him that if I start writing about them I would have to write a biography.

I still cannot think him as a dead being, it still feel that he is around. It is fortunate that atleast he acted in movies so atleast we can have a glimpse of him whenever we want. Seeing him never felt like he is an actor, it always felt like some genuine soul is creating a magic. He was a good soul overall. Recently I saw his interview that was taken in 2016 where he was seen arguing with Muftis and Maulanas. His thoughts were bang on. It was how I use to think and always fought with people that not all Muslims are bad. I even got inspired to read Quran and I did.

I really feel sad that such an amazing soul is not between us. Infact I remember during the lockdown when I was in Mumbai last year, I woke up with the news that Irrfan Khan admitted to hospital, and I immediately murmured to myself irritably “Please don’t die I am already in stress, what rubbish is this now”, as that time I was low due to lockdown as I was unable to go to my hometown. And next day the news was everywhere he is no more. My eyes were teary. It happened with no other star who died, infact not even with Sridevi being my favourite. That was also because I never saw him as an actor, for me in my mind it was always like he is a nice human being, though I have never met him and this is one regret with which I will have to live my entire life that I won’t be able to see this amazing soul ever in my life.

I remember whenever there was any movie which starred Irrfan Khan I use to watch it without any second thought. I watched Piku and Lunchbox don’t know how many times. All I can say is will miss you Irrfan Sir. I love you from the bottom of my heart and wish that you always smile as a rising star looking down upon us.

Love and only Love

Tripts.

My Brother Nikhil

Recently I watched this 2005 flick, and was wondering were people really that ignorant those times. Thankfully, people are more aware now atleast that is what I think. It dealt with 2 “Taboos”, majorly “Aids” and some part of homosexuality.

Firstly let’s talk about homosexuality, why we have to give it a name. Can’t it be taken as normal sex like what happens between a boy and a girl, it can happen between a boy and a boy or a girl and a girl. Or more than sex Love. Why to stereotype and make it look unusual and something that is beyond nature. Why can’t it be taken as a normal subject. Why to ridicule and make a mockery of it. That’s true even today whenever we come across a man who seems to be gay as per his mannerisms, we talk hush hush giggle pointing at him. That’s true as I use to work in media industry, most of the make up person or stylist use to be gay, and people use to be normal with them but make fun of them behind their back. I mean this is so unacceptable. It is just the matter of choice, there is nothing wrong in it. Infact it took a legal turn to when government has to announce that 377 is legal now, means it was such an offence that a penal code was assigned to it why because there was lot of hue and cry regarding it mainly in the form of activists that it is ruining the prestige of their religion whereas there is no where in any religious book it is mentioned to crush someone’s independence.

Now let’s talk about “Aids”, though now I believe it’s no longer a taboo still I have come across many intellectual people who do believe that maintain distance with people having “Aids”. Years back I was watching movie “Phir Milenge” starring Shilpa Shetty and Salman Khan, I was watching the movie with one of my creative director for a T.V Show, I just mouthed out words like what lame people are these who are sacking her for being HIV positive, to which my director counter attacked what’s wrong in this, it’s always better to be safe. I was really amazed by her senses. How will you get impacted in being around with such person. But that’s true. Some people even today have this myth in them that HIV positive people are contagious. All I can say is if at all you have some kind of mental turbulences, please educate yourself before being paranoid. Firstly being HIV Positive does not mean the person has AIDS and secondly even if the person has Aids it’s fine he or she would be taking treatment and let the person live the life with full dignity with whatever time he or she is left with. Don’t ridicule or embarrass the person.

Live life with full grace.

Tripts🌸

Social Media Ideals

I know the title seems too wierd. What I meant here is that people posts too idealistic quotes on social media, but do they really mean it. No, trust me I know such people, infact public figures who posts too idealistic quotes like being positive, genuine soul etc etc but in reality they are exact opposite to it.

I never post such things on social media because our mind works in mysterious manner. Today we are positive, tomorrow we can be negative and the other day might get involve in immoral activities, we cannot predict our personality, it keep on changing. First of all develop humanity. Be kind to everyone. We all lack this virtue including me. I don’t think I am a genuine soul, if for once you became jealous of someone, made fun of someone’s appearance or spoke ill about someone then you are human not genuine. And that is why giving motivational gyan on social media is far from being true. They post to gain followers, more and more likes. I have worked in media industry and know many such people who are completely different off screen. And that’s not wrong but why to be saints on social media. Be who you are. I don’t feel ashamed saying that I am fake at times, negative and jealous being. Because I am human. One should be kind from inside and then they won’t have to give gyan to others and they will automatically have millions of followers.

Love

Tripts❤️

Slangs… Just words or disrespect!!!

As far as slangs used in English language as a part of conversation it’s all cool. However, I never like when people used ethnicity based slurs to define people. It is all in bad taste, very disrespectful! But for people it’s all in humour. Keeping names for the people you are friendly with is okay but using slangs in generic terms is really not acceptable.

Like for example very common one is “Chinky” that refers to mostly people with Chinese origin. Same way “Nigger” is the word used for black people mostly in USA. And the most offensive term I hate personally is “Katua” or “Mullah” to describe people of Muslim origin. And what is amazing is that people find pride and fun while calling these names out. I never liked, when I use to work and when my seniors use to joke about taking these slangs, I use to keep quiet, no point in correcting these so called high profile, sophisticated, intellectual and elite class. They know everything and if you correct them you are either spoiled sport or trying to be classy and modest.

So I stopped correcting anyone now. But I feel we should not be using derogatory term for anyone and just for once try to step in their shoes, how will you feel if someone does that to you.

Have a lovely and joyous day.

Love

Tripts🥰

The Intern

When I started working in Mumbai in T.V industry, I used to be embarrassed quite a while because everyone out there were so young to me, even my creative directors and I was working as their juniors, all because I started too late.

But then one day while net surfing I came across this wonderful movie that changed my mindset all together. Well, even if you are working with your younger ones as your seniors, there is no need to be embarrassed if you are dedicated, hardworking, focused and most important wearing a smile whole time at work.

At the end how does it matter what age you are till the time you know your job and love your job and even if people sometime talk about you or seem surprised for your age, that’s okay. You be confident because at the end confidence is what matters and trust me slowly people will love you.

Love

Tripts…

Ghost- Are They Real!!!

Well, this is a debatable topic since long for so many people. And as a matter of fact 99% of our country believes in them. And I am not here to challenge their belief. Everyone has there belief system and we all should respect that but as an individual I do not believe in Ghosts. For one and only major reason I have not seen them.

Forget that, but whoever claims that they have seen ghosts have actually not seen them but have heard tales from their relatives or granny. Anything what we have seen or believe are through the movies. It is movies portrayal of ghosts that has occupied our minds so strongly that we have even given shape to this imagination called “Ghost”.

Like for example, it is generally shown in movies that ghost come back to take revenge then we have so many famous pending murder cases why don’t their spirits come and take revenge. Forget this I recently rewatched Ram Gopal Verma’s flick “Darna Zaruri Hai”, and was amazed to see the beginning chunk where a man dies of a heart attack while crossing the graveyard as he believes that someone wearing “Payal”is chasing while in the reality it was coins in his pocket given to him at ticket counter, were making noise. So the moral here is it is your fear that kills you and I always use to say that your fear kills you, not spirits. And even if there are spirits they will never ever harm you in any way as shown in movies.

Now, there is even studies on them called paranormal sciences but in today’s time, a small subject can be the matter of study. So to sum up I can say only one thing not hurting anyone’s belief that for those who believe ghosts there are ghosts and for those who does not believe in ghosts there are no ghosts.

Have a Ghostfree life🤪

Tripts💕

Depression & Suicide…

The psychotically depressed person who tries to kill herself doesn’t do so out of “hopelessness”… not because death seems suddenly appealing. The person… will kill herself the same way a trapped person will eventually jump from the window of a burning high-rise… Their terror of falling from a great height is still just as great as it would be for you or me… The variable here is the other terror, the fire’s flames when the flames get close enough, falling to death becomes the slightly less terrible of two terrors.

Bit high to understand but meaning is deep hidden, if you can understand the person’s silence, you will understand this as well😇

Love

Tripts

Shame

This is what I deals with most of the times!!!

Most people who live with depression live with some sort of shame. Whether it’s shame about who you are: I am not good enough, smart enough, successful enough, pretty enough, thin enough. Shame about what depression has turned you into: I’m not productive enough, reliable enough, happy enough. Shame about being depressed at all: I’m not normal enough. Shame about not being able to control all these disturbing thoughts: I’m not enough.

Embarrassment while similar to shame is still very different. Embarrassment is situational and occurs when the image you want to project to the world takes a hit and there are spectators.

Shame and guilt are not same either. Guilt can often be a positive emotion that helps you after your behaviour- if you believe you have behaved badly and it pushes you to behave more morally in future. Guilt is all about making amends while shame is about isolating, hiding and escaping.

Essentially shame causes you psychological pain so that you can see mistakes that you’re making and correct yourself.

Certainly most people dealing with mood or anxiety disorders seem to have an overdeveloped ability to feel shame.

Love

Tripts❤️

Saree!!!

Now a days saree has become a real taboo. If you wear saree it has to be a special occasion. Either some boys parents are coming to see you or you are going for some event or may be you are an air hostess. Whatever it is but it cannot be a regular wear like jeans, skirts or frocks.

In earlier times women use to wear saree as their daily wear. I love wearing saree. I feel comfortable and beautiful both in saree. Oh and yes not to forget you can look sexy too in saree, you don’t have to necessarily wear short dress to look sexy and hot. People should really change their mindset. And forget people talking about individuals wear what makes you happy and not give up on societal pressure. I have a good collection of saree and I wear it anytime I want even if at home sometimes and if that makes me “Behenji” as some people says who cares after all it’s your body.

Happiness always

Tripts🌸

My Name Is Khan!

This movie is one of my favourite and I can watch it umpteen no of times. No, not because of SRK or Karan Johar. It is my favourite due to the fact I always believed and it was portrayed in the movie. Back in 2010 when this movie was released, I watched in theatre and I cried, I cried a lot. Not because I got emotional, yes ofcourse this movie was emotional but I cried out of happiness. Simply because I was happy finally someone said what I was saying whole of these years and people were arguing with me. No one agreed with me.

The point I am trying to make here is that why we bracket Muslims. Not all Muslims are terrorists, not all Muslims are bad. Yes I do agree that they are rigid religiously. If hypothetically we believe also that all Muslims are very cynical then too what you all do, outcast them, demean them, look down upon them. They have certain ways of thinking and worshiping. They behave differently but that’s okay. If you say that they don’t pray our God or enter our temples, that’s okay, but you don’t stop going to mosques. Why you have to start comparisans.

When I was doing graduation, I still remember I have a very good friend and batchmate Iftikhar with me who use to walk with me till my hostel gate every day. The dean of my university was Brahmin like me. Once the guards caught us thinking us to be couple took our I.d cards, not to miss our exams were near. The guard saw our I.d cards, looking at my name Tripathi and his name being Khan, they gave back my card and kept his, we both pleaded but he yelled and asked us to leave. He paid the price for dropping me hostel safely though we were never in love. I genuinely felt bad for him and I never saw him again after that day.

This is just one incident that happened with me, there are no of such incidents that happen with people every now and then especially when they travel abroad. Why???? Muslims are people just like us. I have read Quran and it also teaches what other religious pictures teaches us. No difference at all. Yes I agree terrorism mostly has Muslims but does that mean we should start hating overall Muslims. No!!!

Infact when Pulwama Attack happened in Feb 2019, it is so ironic that what Mr. Navjot Singh Sidhu said for which he was condemned a lot I said exactly the same a day before that, even if the attack has been done by Pakistan, to blame entire Pakistan people is wrong.

I know many people will hate me for writing this, may be they will also call me anti Indian but all I am saying is humanity is above all and using terms for Muslims like “Mullah” “Katua” etc is derogatory. Not acceptable at all. Treat Muslims with equality and pride. They are human too like us. No need to look them down upon. Yes and I do believe that not all of them are terrorists.

Love, Peace and Humanity.

Tripts.

Mental illness – Certified Madness

“Depression” what is it. What kind of illness is it? Is it a term used in English language, a disease or a myth. Over sometime I have realised that when someone is diagnosed with a disease called depression, that person is certified wrongdoer, means if something happens, and the person tries to put his or her side, it is always termed as “Oh that one is depressed, have mood swings etc etc, she or he needs therapy, that means she can never be right, why because she is depressed.

A person who goes through mental illness has the capability of thinking and understanding. She may have her versions to tell. She should be heard, acknowledged too. If someone commit suicide there also very easily it is blamed on the depression, that he/she was depressed and then comes all the fancy terms like “Bipolar Disorder” “Clinical Depression” “Schizophrenia” etc etc. For people you are suffering from mental illness that means whatever you say or believe is all in your mind, your imagination. You can never be right. There is overdeveloped sympathy for you. You are certified “Bechari” for everyone. You can no longer be a strong independent individual because you are suffering from some kind of mental illness.

It is so funny that first these people tell you that you are mentally ill then introduce you to some psychiatrist and then never let you live a normal life. Your whole life you are dependent on medicines and counsellors. If ever you try to talk about something that is not right, you are asked “Have you stopped taking your medicines”. In your head you have already accepted that this person is MAD, but you will not say it because you are an intellectual part of this society.

I would like to sum up here by saying that yes depression does exist, there are some forms of mental illness that do exist. But at the same time the depression survivors have brain to think, they can be intellectuals too. They can be right in lot many things. All you need is to be a compassionate lisiteners, where a person can lighten there hearts and all the baggage they have. Also treat them as normal human beings. Just because they are depressed does not mean, they don’t have right to feel bad, hurt and raise their voice and if they in worst case commit suicide, we should not assume that they were depressed so died and close the matter. They can be abused, threatened or going through certain situations in life which is not right.

Remember “Depression” is a illness that is weakness and sadness hidden in heart. It has nothing to do with your mind, that can very well think and rationalise.

Love

Tripts

Love…

Recently I was re watching “Nishabd”. Back in 2007 when the movie released, I was also critical of Mr.Bachchan and the movie as well. However, today I think Love is love, it does not understand any barriers, be it age, religion, caste, creed, community or even gender. There is nothing legal or moral when it comes to Love. May be that’s why it is said “Everything is fair in love”.

So what if a 70 year old man fell in love with a 20 year old girl. Even if he is married and has a 20 year old daughter. Love is a feeling, it is a beautiful emotion. When it overpowers you, it does not see anything else but only your heart. Even if you are married for 30 years, there is a possibility that your heart might beat for someone you just meet. But why is it difficult for society to accept that Love is Love beyond anyone’s restrictions and expectations.

You feel for someone strongly and express it. Why you have to criticise or abandon him or her. Your heart and soul belongs to an individual per say, no one else should have a say in it. Love should be treated with love and not with hatred and judgements. When I watched the movie, I couldn’t understand why the wife and daughter had to abandon him filled with hatred and disgust. He liked being in someone’s company. It made him happy, it should not be termed as cheating on his wife.

It is strange to see people being so judgemental about it. Guys, always be supportive of Love, irrespective of how and which form it is coming. Everyone has the right to feel it. Though I as an individual has always experienced pain in it still I would say that it is a beautiful emotion and I completely believe and support it’s sanctity.

So feel love, believe in love and embrace love.

Love

Tripts…

Sharing is not caring anymore!

We have grown up hearing this phrase “Sharing is caring”, in schools we use to hear this while on picnics to share our tiffin, and later it became sharing of thoughts. But as the time is changing it seems sharing is actually not caring anymore. When you share your emotional turbulences with people or most precisely your friends, they tend to use it against you or may be later trying to tell you how negative you are and how great they are to still be with you inspite of your reckless behaviour.

It is really sad and then it is termed as you being a difficult person. I don’t know whether I am depressed or not but whatever I have shared with my friends all these years have come infront of me in a very distasteful manner. I had a close friend whom I thought of being transparent infront of her as I thought I can be myself but one day on being asked about my personality, she replied that you have hell lot of emotional issues etc etc, all what I shared being troubled, was presented in a way that I am too emotional and disturbed soul who is difficult to please. Then one of my cousin said that I spoke to you because you are very lonely and no one to talk to, I have many friends you have none, making me realise that I am someone to be felt pity for and then recently one of my actor friend also said that I supported you when everyone else left you, irrespective of me being a celebrity so on and so forth.

All this makes me wonder, was all this worthy for.I shared things out of emotions, being vulnerable and what you all did, made me feel like a loser, someone who should be pittied at, someone who is not wanted, not accepted and you are doing favour at her. So now I think it was rather good if I wouldn’t have opened up about myself at all. Then why all these big big seminars do sweet talks such as share yourself and talk your heart out, when you do so you are later on mocked.

I don’t feel angry on those who came in my life just feel sad for me that I was thinking that people lisitening to me are really my friends and my emotions are worth for giving a ear.

Have a nice day with happy thoughts and genuine people around❤️